Choices, and why we suck in making them

Have you ever heard of going into stress when you have to make major decisions?

That you have difficulties making choices and always also in retrospect you are also reconsidering of the other option might have been a better one?

In Dutch we call it 'keuzestress' literally translated to 'choice-stress'

The first time I heard of this was while reading a book called 'Het dertigers dilemma'

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Literally translated this titel is 'Thirties Dilemmas' And that is exactly what I am experiencing at this moment.

It has been a long time ago since I read this book, but I remember the gist from it. One of the things the author is referring to is that back in the days, people would have a midlife crises usually after they have been running a certrain routine for a x-amount of years. They start to question themselves if this is actually the way they should continue their life until they retire.

The new crisis

The new crisis that arises is for the group in my age, and that is because we have to many options.

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The author refers to it in this way.

If you have a table with 2 snacks, you just choice the one you feel like more today. But if you have a table with 100 different pastries, all of a sudden stress comes in. Because there are so many options, what if you choose the wrong one?

And that is where it begins. Because after some years of studying, you have done your job for a certain amount of years. All jobs have some kind of 'it is the same over and over factor inside of there. That is why there is a 7 year average of when people switch of emloyer, to get new input.

So how does this apply to you, Karin?

That applies 100% on me at this moment because I am switching jobs in a new country. I am working with a buro which got me 3 different interviews last week with 3 different employers in 3 different cities.

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And then you don't know which route to take

Because this buro did an awesome job in looking for potential working spaces for me. And I am hired in all three of 3 places.

So I can choose.

And this luxury postion (because that is exactly what it is, a luxury position, I realize that all to well!) is exactly what makes it challenging. Because you have to weigh out what you find important. You look at the factors :

general vibe

good for resume

challenge

learning situation

ability to totally be yourself

money

location where you live

And you come to the conclusion that you find all of these important, but I am not sure which one I find the most important for myself. So you fall back in the mindgame again.

"But what if I choose A, will I regret that I did not choose B"

While if you are only applying for one job, you are happy with it, and you take it.

I really understand for a lot of people how complaining this sounds. Because I do realize that so many people in the world do not have the ability to choose from jobs, and that they are just happy to have one at all. I am totally aware that I am in a fortunate position, and that is why making the damn choice is even more difficult ;)

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I gave myself until tomorrow to make my decision

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