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Hello Dear friends

Today we are going to talk about criticism.,Well, the word criticism itself means assessment and evaluation. And of course, it's divided into two parts: criticism and criticize and usually people try to avoid criticism of the other as far as possible because they think Which may cause discomfort and anger, and on the other hand, usually, people will not appreciate being criticized. Of course, if a few simple points are taken before criticism, I personally welcome this and that is it. It is imperative that the environmental and individual circumstances of the other party be taken into account, and certainly in Kenya Negative points should be considered in the positive points of the individual and not emphasized only on the weak points of the other side, and secondly, we all should strengthen and raise our level of criticism and accept that constructive criticism leads to our perfection and, of course, There are a few key tips that will be presented in the following text:

At first, it's best to get familiar with a variety of criticisms that include:

1. Constructive Conduct:

This critique can usually have a positive and constructive aspect, and it's just what we expect from the word of critique, which, of course, if this is a friendly approach, is surely a better result. The critic's person can provide a different solution by asking questions. Criticize your opponent without causing an annoyance and insulting him. For example, if you are going to tell your friend that his dressing is not right for him, instead of telling him directly, try to get to the point in a better way and raise his question. For example, tell him I think the pink color is more than red.

2. Indirect criticism

As a proverb, say that the wall is heard, for example, if you are saddened by lying to the other side, tell him that you like to be lied to someone, so the person himself will indirectly notice your criticism.

3 Aggressive and explicit criticism

It should be kept in mind that being honest, though it is a sign of our honesty, is often not popular, and usually causes anger and defeat in one person, for example, if we tell the other person that you do not have a total taste in buying or, for example, how much your new hair it's ugly ....

4. Criticism with Definition and Praise

This method does not mean flattering, but it also makes it possible to express the weaknesses along with the emphasis and praise of the good attributes of the individual, for example, before criticizing him to say that you are a very smart, intelligent, literary, first, his strengths To express

5. Conviction

In this way, the individual decides on a well-known one-way decision, and conducts a one-way court and imposes his or her opinion regardless of the opponent's words.

6 Later criticism

Well, it is quite clear from the title of this method that we mean that it is better to be criticized at the right time and when it does not make any use of the past, unless expressing late criticism of the repetition of the same mistake in the future. To be prevented

The right way to criticize

Observing the following points can be very helpful at times of criticism:

• Can the critiqued behavior be changed?
• Is the person criticized interested in hearing it?
• What is the probability of passing a criticized party?
• Ask the critic Does it mean you?
• Inform the criticized person that your critique is a simple reflection of your opinion.
• Avoid contentious criticism, because such criticisms immediately place the person in a defensive position.
• Try to criticize your personal attitude towards the subject and try to be curious about his attitude.
• Do not turn the issue too long and criticize it because it makes the listener feel tired and bored.
• Express criticism in the right time and place, not at a moment when the other party is not prepared to hear it. First, wait for the audience to be calm and cool so that the mistake you make is effective.
• Given the level of knowledge of the audience, he has expressed criticism to understand the audience. One method can not be used by all people.
• When trying to criticize, try not to be mistreated and only to help and guide.
  Empathize the person with the problems and feelings.
• It is better to criticize in person and without intermediaries and avoid indirect criticism.
• To protect the dignity of people, avoid criticizing and advising someone in the presence of others.

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When someone is criticized, he shows different behaviors:
Some get angry.
Some feel frivolous and useless and lose confidence.
He did not accept some criticism and no longer appeals to anyone who criticized him.
Some people keep silent, but they do not communicate with the critic.
Some respond to this and explain why
And some, he begins to express the weaknesses of work and the personality of the critic, apparently thus, pulling himself out of his critique.
But there are people who are listening and thanking the critic. If they were correct, they would correct their behavior, and if they were wrong,
Respectfully, they continue to behave properly

Sandwich technique
It has come to you when you want to tell an unpleasant or uncomfortable story

How do you tell it

We propose Sandwich Technique.

To reduce the unpleasant effect of a negative message or message,
Put it in between two phrases or positive news and deliver to the audience.

"Positive statement, negative sentence, positive statement"

for example:

Sarah John, you're a great chef, although the salty little salted, but the soup is really delicious.

Mom, you're so kind, though sometimes I'm upset because of your many reminders, but I know I love you so much ....

Putting a negative sentence between two positive statements reduces the severity of its destructive effect, and by pointing out the positive points, the person feels that only negative points have not been observed, that they are fair and that there is a greater incentive to change and improve the conditions.

✅Do not exaggerate in expressing positive points or give someone a false positive attribute, this will have an inverted effect.

I tried to summarize the subject I read in brief and in my own language.
I hope that criticizing us will always be in such a way that our dear ones do not hurt.

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