The power of humiliation
Where people fail to fit into cultura/sociall norms, shame and humiliation are employed to either remove them from the society or change their behaviour to fit set norm.
You got insulted, your ego is bruised, your pride is hurt, you have been made powerless and belittled in some way or an other, and now you are mad as hell!
Being humiliated, it is unfair, and you don't like feeling foolish.
Humiliation often results in violent retaliation and/or revenge.
Remember, at the end of the day, only your opinion of yourself matters ;)
But shame and guilt are primarily the outcome of self-appraisal, embarrassment and humiliation are primarily the outcome of appraisal by one or several others, even if only in thought or imagination.
Humiliation need not involve an act of violence or coercion. A person can readily be humiliated through more passive means such as being ignored or overlooked, taken for granted, or denied a certain right or privilege. He can also be humiliated by being rejected, abandoned, abused, betrayed, or used as a means-to-an-end rather than an end-in-himself
One important respect in which humiliation differs from embarrassment is that;
We bring embarrassment upon ourselves!
Humiliation is something that is brought upon us by others!!
Difference between humiliation and embarrassment is that humiliation cuts deeper.
Humiliation is traumatic and often hushed up, embarrassment, given enough time, can be used as a humorous anecdote.
Fundamentally, humiliation involves abasement of pride and dignity, and with it loss of status and standing.
To humiliate someone is to assert power over him by denying and destroying his status claims.
To this day, humiliation remains a common form of punishment
We all make certain status claims, however modest they may be,‘I am a good mother’....
When we are merely embarrassed, our status claims are not undermined
But when we are humiliated, our status claims cannot so easily be recovered because, in this case, our very authority to make status claims has been called into question.
People who are humiliated are usually left stunned and speechless, and, more than that, voiceless.....
In short, humiliation is the public failure of one’s status claims.
Their private failure amounts not to humiliation but to painful self-realization
Humiliators are often:
Projecting their own flaws:
One of the best ways People who are so scared to admit the existence of their flaws is to deny their existence
Failed to have a useful role in life:
If a person failed to make significant achievements in life he is very likely to turn to useless victories if he was a coward. While brave people start again and keep trying to achieve their goals cowards go for cheap victories by criticizing any person who seems more successful or happier than them.
Very low self esteem:
Why do people feel jealous of others? There are many reasons but the most popular one is believing that someone did what they can't do
Strong feeling of inferiority:
We all experience inferiority feelings at some points of our lives but the brave ones of us usually move in directions that helps them ease this. For example when a brave person finds that he is earning a very low salary compared to his coworkers; he will use this AS A motivating force to have a better career. But if the person is inferior and too insecure to do that? He then will just criticize and humiliate people to feel good because he can't do any better
Lets be honest; the world is full of psychos & unstable people who disguise in the form of sane humans.
You can get criticized or humiliated because of psychological issues that the attacker suffers from and not because you are really bad or defective.
Majority of humans, don't have a high self esteem.
Brave ones who actually have the courage to follow their dreams are a minority.
Most people feel insecure and hate to see others doing better than they do
Do you still think you should feel bad when you get mocked?
I subconsciously chosed to refear to the subject of humiliation as a ‘victims. .
What do you think, are they?
hundred ways from what you see me to be.
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This line is ohh so true
I remember a greta uncle would say often treat others as you would like to be treated and that is the way I try to be even if their actions make one want to do otherwise.
and I have seen over my years so often those who humiliate others are doing it because of there own lack of self worth and they tend to try and drag down others to there own level and I find in a way I feel sorry for them
Happy you agree on that. If you also watch , the impacts of how effective ;said claims are!!!
I agree with your uncle, i do thow think, this is the most effective way of disepline someone. I my self do actually use it but i do my homework first & would never use it on someone , who are unsecure/unsafe...
Sad to agree but your so right, in that and they also go for the once , who could have used pick me up instead of a degraiting coment..
Its easy sometime sot slip into it, MY worse trait is I can get very sarcastic at times, or at least I used to, I think I am way better with it now, or maybe I am just fooling myself thinking that LOL
im the queen of snarky, sarcastic & irony ;) he eh and the more twists i can squuiiz into a line the better LOL buut i do come of rude...
Im happy you grew out of it.. I should take lessons with you ;) LOL
I cant for the life of me , help my self, when i find stupied coments..
Ha ha naaa i dont think your fooling your self buut i can sometimes 'see' the slip ;) :P
The cure for me seems to be an appropriate amount of self love. That way I can put myself out there and attempts at humiliation are not as powerful.
Now thats a healthy way to see one self :D!! aw see, IF you put your self out there & allow peopel to have a go at you; by default, you will not be a subject of humiliating efforts. As your considered to have a strong status claim ;) :D