What is the difference between fault and responsibility?
Every word carries a certain frequency that has an influence on us. That influence is often disregarded and attributed to our personal state of mind but there is great importance in words. You can say two different words in the exact same tone of voice with the same facial expression but they will have a different impact on a person because they are different in their meaning. We so often forget that.
Lack of understanding of words is not only dangerous when speaking to others, it is hazardous when we are speaking about or to ourselves. Some people are too nice to themselves and some are too harsh, it is hard to find a healthy middle ground but mostly all of us tend to have a problem with accepting the responsibility for ourselves and our lives.
“Responsibility and fault often appear together in our culture. But they're not the same thing.”
Mark Manson
Nothing is your fault actually. When you say that you are the one to blame your brain is immediately associating that word with the expectancy of punishment. You are focusing on the problem and not on the solution. Fault bring feelings of less worthiness and disappointment, it is closely related to a definition of mistake.
Stop blaming yourself. It is not productive and it will never bring you any sense of accomplishment. With fault, you are going backward and focusing on why you did or said something. If you were to ask yourselves those questions and move on, it would be fine, but what is it that you do usually? You stay there in the past and torture yourself. Do you think that you deserve to be tortured that way? You do not.
Resposibility is something that we are all afraid of, well, most of the people, not everyone. Responsibility is the realization that we are the ones in charge, we are making all the decisions. There is no more blaming our parents, the media, our teachers, friends, and politicians. Everything in our lives is a direct consequence of our previous decisions and actions. We made everything in our lives happen, good and the bad, but with responsibility comes a power to change whatever we want.
When you accept that you are the only one responsible for everything that is happening to you, an opportunity for change and/or progress presents itself. Now you are able to focus on the solution of any problem and take charge of your life, good and the bad parts of it. You have all the power you need, the power to think, rationalize and make a decision. Decision making is the greatest power you have actually. Cherish it.
“Most people do not really want freedom, because freedom involves responsibility, and most people are frightened of responsibility.”
Sigmund Freud
Do you want to be free? Are you afraid of the freedom? Freedom begins with you accepting that you are THE ONLY one responsible for your life.
Nothing is your fault but everything is your responsibility.
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@zen-art quite a motivational one and true words. If i can sum up like everything happens for a reason and we are responsible for everythinh...then i dont see i am wrong....it is our responsibility to present ourself to any situation...
Yes, it is always our responsibility :)
Preach It! Indeed we are responsible for our journey's and a lot of things are not our fault, needed to read and hear this today to be honest <3
I am happy that Universe sent this post to you and made you read it hihihi, just proves that we always get what we need 💚
Such a wonderful distinction! Now would you please write a post to tell me how to stop rehashing past mistakes in my head? lol! Overthinker over here. Sometimes I think I take too much responsibility. ;)
I used to have a problem with that too lol, practice makes perfect, that does not go away overnight. Keep reminding yourself that you are not supposed to live in the past and one day you will convince yourself. There is no such thing as too much responsibility, take as many as you WANT, ok? WANT, that is the secret key. Do not take it because you think you need but only because you want. 💚💚💚
Very nicely said, my friend. I have faults (poor spelling not the least among them :) ) but I am responsible for those faults, as well as the strengths.
I aspire to make every decision with the very best information I have at that time. Sometimes the information is incorrect, sometimes it is spot on. Either way, that moment is past and the day goes on.
Every single thing I've done got me right here, right now. Right here, right now is pretty damn good from my perspective.
Thank you.
I am so happy and proud of you, you have come a long way and carry some strong wisdom 💚
great writing
Fault is what people beat them selves on to much and get dragged down by, I prefer to recognize my faults and address them where I can but not let them define me
Great advise on making rational decision based on what you know and feel
Never let the faults define you, you decide what defines you 💚
Thank you @zen-art for the clear explanation. Words in themselves are triggers. They trigger certain meaning. It is not necessarily for a word to have the same effect on all people. I believe the word responsibility triggers the meaning of liability for most of us. While in fact it means ability and proactivity. Thanks for your insightful words. :)
It was my pleasure, thank you for your lovely words 💚
You Welcome :)
Ugh the truth hurts... The moment you talked about responsibility my gut turned tail and ran, but you are absolutely right about that. And facing more situations where this is mattering more and more, as opposed to sitting in the sidelines pointing at others. Driving to action. Nicely done.
When truth hurts I always think that those are our stubborn synapses braking in our brains so we can form new ones :)
What a great share this is Petra. I sometimes just blame myself for things, especially when things are not going my way. I know there's a way to it but there are just those days that it can't be helped that I feel that I need to reflect of my actions.
Thanks for sharing this. This can make a difference in someone's life. :)
Baby steps and one day at the time. Nothing can be fixed or changed in a second because it was not created in a second either. Give your self a break, you are doing great and amazing with acknowledging that you blame yourself, you recognized it and that is a HUGE step. Good job! 💚💚💚
Thanks Petra! I am touched. I will definitely keep this in mind.
There are so many now who fault... everyone but themselves. I suppose that can be the icing on the cake of the entitlement movement...
Imagine how the World would look like if we all took responsibility for ourselves, our lives and our decisions 💚
The universe would explode.
lol
Thankyou for posting this. This really broden my horizon. Take a look at my post as well