Don't marry the person you love, Love the person you marry. What's the difference?

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I believe that the reasons why it is said that we should not marry the person we love but instead love the person will marry is that many of us tend to marry solely because of love..don,t get me wrong,i am not saying love is not important in a marriage but there are also alot of more important factors that make a marriage successul.....

Many of us do not focus on marrying a person with great qualities and responsibility to work together with us to have a successful relationship but instead we ignore the personality and attitude of the person and just focus basically ONLY on the love we have for the person and when we enter the marriage and finally discover that only love is not the only recipe needed to make a marriage successful then that is when we start feel awkward and sad in the marriage....

When we marry a person who is responsible enough to accept us for for who we are to make a great marriage,when we marry a person who is mentally and physically prepared to get into marriage and face the challenges that could occur in a marriage,when we marry a person who have knowledge about what it takes to make a marriage work,...taking such decisions is the best for us and that would make us to have the ability to be able to enjoy our marriage..

even if we feel that we do not love the person enough to be able to get married to them,we need to understand that true love often grows do not just suddenly happen,,when a person always makes us happy and makes our heart to be at peace,when the person is caring and loving to us,, then we would start cherishing the person and before we know what is happening "we are already falling in love"......