STOP PATCHING IT! GET A NEW MATERIAL.

in #relationship6 years ago

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You must have been hearing people telling you or someone else to endure in a relationship and that things would change or get better.

But I want you to know that some counsels are only meant for marriage, they can't be extended to or used in courtship.

In courtship or a premarital relationship, if you see it is not working, and it won't make you happy, you must just let it go. Don't continue to patch what is not patchable.

Sometimes, what you need is to go to the market and buy a new clothing material and sew, or a new readymade. Instead of patching the old one that keeps tearing off.

If you patch it, it will tear again and it might one day disgrace you in public. It could expose your nakedness and bring you tears that will never end.

Stop looking at the difficulties of starting all afresh. It is better to go and work, make some money and get into market to buy a new fine cloth, than to get a public and lasting disgrace because you want to keep the old one.

Or because you don't want to go through the stress of working and waiting to raise the needed finance that will help you get the new material. Just like so many people are doing in their premarital relationships today.

If your premarital relationship with a particular person isn't making you happy, then your marriage to that person is going to bring you weeping. So, why walk into fire?

There are some premarital relationships that don't worth being held unto. If you hold unto them, you're holding unto tears. You're holding unto death.

If you find yourself in such a relationship, I'll advise you, give it up so you can go up. If you keep holding unto it, you might regret the rest of your life when married.

Most times in a courtship, you need to hold unto your rights and with the situation predict how your marriage to that person would look like.

But, in a marriage, you need to give up your rights many times in order to enjoy peace in your home. But you shouldn't always be doing that in courtship if you want to be happy in your marriage.

So, don't give up your important rights in courtship so that you'll not have to give up your right to be Happy and your right to be Alive when you marry that person.

Wrong courtships that are allowed to become marriages have brought about the death of either of the partners from the hands of the other, whether deliberately or otherwise. And some of those still alive are weeping in their daily lives.

Many people are weeping today who ought to be laughing, because they threw away their brains before they got married. Only to find the brains when it's already too late for them. Don't join such.

ALWAYS ASK BEFORE YOU GET MARRIED and know how to know and choose the right person for marriage, and pull yourself off the wrong person.

If you sincerely ask yourself questions and give them the right answers, I can assure you that you shall have a Happy and Successful Marriage in your life. You won't join them to weep tomorrow.

I love you and I want to see you Marry and be Happy, not marry and be weeping. If you're still single today, help yourself. Read the book. Apply the lessons. Follow the instructions in it.

Don't just read it for fun. Read it to learn and act on what you learn. You'll Be Happy and Ever grateful to God

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