WHAT DO YOU THINK THAT TWO PEOPLE MUST HAVE IN COMMON TO CONNECT WITH EACH OTHER?
Relationship is one of the hardest things to have and understand properly. Many things make a relationship. It is not about the look, beauty, intelligence, physique alone that makes it work out. It takes many sacrifices, understanding, misunderstanding and ability to let go easily.
I have heard people say: 'we just connect', suggesting that with or without speech, they have this sense of connection which makes them believe they are meant to be.
Some have pinned these connections to philosophies. That is, if the two parties share similar philosophy of life and reason in a similar direction, it is easy for them to relate well and flow as partners.
Some have argued that it is about interest. That is, the areas these two parties focus their attentions on matters. It could be that they want a better world and as such, love humanitarian activities. It could be that that they have similar sense of what makes a movie a 'movie', music a 'music'.
So one thing or the other makes two peoole feel they have a connection and then assume they were made for each other.
As an individual, i have once dated someone sharing the same birthday with me. We believed this is what connects us to one another. There was this joy whenever we celebrated our birthday because calls entered our phones simultaneously and people told me to greet her and also told her to greet me. But for a reason, it didn't work out and some even superstitiously linked it to zodiac, saying it is bad for us to be together. I didn't believe them and i wont but since it didn't work, they might be thinking they were right after all!
Have you ever met someone and instantly hit it off with them? Like they say love at first sight. Have you for once met a guy/lady and instantly felt this is it? What was present that made you connect so easily? Is it the look, the teeth, lips, physique or the way he/she speaks?
What do you think must be present for two people to connect?
If you are looking for one certain thing in a man/woman but he/she lacks it, do you think the two of you can still have that 'connection' to work things out?
Share with me that which you expect in a man/woman to properly connect with him/her.
Thanks for your time.
Connection is not automatic, it is built with time. Some call it chemistry but you call it connection. People connect at different levels in a relationship and that's what binds them together, it could be sexual connection, same career or same dream etcetera but the most important thing is that this connection is built on the bedrock of communication and spending time together. Couples can't connect when one person is always building a barricade to communication or almost never available.
Have you ever wondered why two people locked up in a room for a long time ends up building some chemistry? That couples connect doesn't denote a lasting relationship. There are several other attributes that are necessary for a relationship to last and one major which is ability to resolve conflicts when it arises, understanding your partner and always making them know how much they are valued amidst others.
To me as a person, communication is of utmost important because that's my best way of understanding you and you understanding me. No one is perfect, we learn everyday.
Connection based on looks and material possessions are just plain infatuation.