"Trusting everyone is foolish; but not trusting anyone is neurotic awkwardness. "
Tenth June Juvenal(60 AD - 128 AD)
Roman poet, from the end of the 1st century
and the beginning of the second century.

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"I should not trust anyone."
"Do not trust your shadow. And if your reflection in the mirror seems suspicious, shoot him "...
These kinds of phrases resemble the arguments of Hollywood movies; but, to tell the truth, it also happens in "real life".
We do not need popcorn to observe these human behaviors on a day-to-day basis.
Indira Gandhi (1917-1984), Hindu statesman and politician (without any kinship with Mahatma Gandhi), expressed: "distrust it is a sign of weakness. "The attitude of" I should not trust anyone "is the result of:

• Think badly of people in advance.
• Unfair judgment that we make to those who approach us.
• Conviction after the trial we made to people. And ... What hides behind distrust?

As well:

• Fear of being hurt.
  The people with whom you relate are your own "mirrors". The gestures and attitudes that you like about them; the
  things that pleasantly surprise you about them; those he values ​​of them; are those characteristics that you also have and accept of yourself.
  All rejection that you experience with others are those things that you DO NOT ACCEPT of yourself and that you need to "heal" inwardly. By distrusting others, there is an inner part of you that does not accept himself, that is, he is distrusting his own essence. It is important that you exercise your consciousness, considering your projections in others, because these reflections you observe in the other people and who define themselves as you believe about yourself, will allow you to "regulate" yourself, that is, to align yourself with your inner center, with this pure and innocent essence that his person IS.
  If he can not trust anyone, it is because he has not been able to forgive his experiences of pain, which led him today to distrust others people, who have no relationship with what happened in the past. The word "dis-trust" means to take out or quieten trust. And trust, it means:
  "With Faith" or "Together with Faith".
  If you lose faith in others, there is a part of you that has lost a part of your own faith.
  When they are cold, the hedgehogs try to approach each other, to generate warmth with each other.

In their first approach, both end up driven by their thorns, so they get scared and go away. The need for heat, It will make the hedgehogs come back to try to be close again, pricking their bodies a second time.
The cold will be noticed to remind them about the lack of heat; and so, the hedgehogs will approach slowly, with great caution and, little little by little, they will be able to be close enough not to hurt each other. In human relationships the same thing happens. The need to feel appreciation, love, appreciation and recognition, makes life closer to people who can kneel among them with the thorns of the ego, where the lack of tolerance and forgiveness. But the warmth of love, will make you and they can regulate the distances, not to end up injured.

Usually, distrustful people tend to have difficulties in interpersonal relationships, since they are always "at the defensive ", as if they had a shield that protects them from a sword that tries to pierce their hearts. They live in a world in which they make the expression of love and feelings more difficult noble and sincere, because they think that the whole world is conspiring to deceive them.

Actually, all of us have been distrustful at some time, and it is probable that we continue doing it; although there is a great difference between people who, under pain of their insecurities, open their hearts and overcome this involutive feeling; and those people who end up annulling themselves, for distrusting even their own shadow. These human beings are terrified, given their unfortunate experiences from their past, from which they have not been able to extract the learning that exists behind them.

As it is evident to understand, this type of attitudes end up isolating people and, consequently, undermining the possibilities of interaction with the social environment and transcend.
A story tells that in a kingdom, some councilors were running to be members of the Court. These candidates put pressure on the sovereign king, so that some of them are accepted as real advisers. The monarch was willing to accept them, although he wished that the greatest requirement for being a counselor was loyalty, since trust was the foundation on which his reign was based. The king arranged for a box to be given to each of the postulants to royal advisors, which was closed and tied weakly with a bow tie, very easy to tie off. The boxes had to remain in the homes of each of the candidates for one night; for after this period has passed, they will deliver the king personally and he will appoint the members of his Court. Many of the applicants could not with their curiosity and cautiously opened the boxes and, by surprise, the birds that were inside, escaped without being able to be recovered.

The day of the delivery of the boxes, the king opened each of them, finding almost all empty. Only two of them were
intact, for what the king appointed his possessors, as his faithful advisors of royalty.
When we give ourselves to others, we may be disappointed in many people we have believed in. But this does not mean that, because we have relied on those individuals who are we gave all our love and they failed us, we must close our mind, our hearts and our door to other people.
We end, many times, making many pay, for the mistakes of others.
The need to feel accepted, approved, loved, is essential in the Human Being.
When your heart asks you to receive a caress, a hug, a mime; do not retract. Re-trust people. Let yourself be guided by your heart, not for the reason. If you want to trust others again, you must first trust your heart again, that you never make a mistake. Emotional intelligence is found in every heart, which regulates it when approaching affections.
Even if you are afraid and ashamed to open your heart to others, it is a sign that your hurt ego is stronger than your need to love. Trust people again and free yourself from your fears.

Ask yourself the following questions:

• I think that, when people approach me with affection, is it because they want to take advantage of me?
• I open my heart for new relationships?
• Am I always on the defensive when someone wants to interact with me?
• Am I afraid they will hurt me again?
• Why do not I give opportunities to
  people who did not hurt me?
• Is it hard for me to make new friends?
• Do I feel it's better to be alone?
• Do I condemn people for the mistakes of others?
• Are there more people who have
  disappointed, that those who did not?
• Is it fair that I distrust people for no reason?
• If people trust me, why do I?
  I distrust more than I trust?
• I prefer to be cautious, before they stab me in the back?
• I exaggerate a lot with being distrustful of everyone and everything?

Recommended Bible passages

Proverbs 15:22
Proverbs 17:17
Proverbs 18:24
Matthew 7: 1,5
Mark 12: 31
Romans 12: 9,21

"Have confidence in people. Open your heart and your best to the world. "

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