Hello Steemians, You are rejected by your environment: Facing social rejection

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What problems are you currently facing? Family and environment reject you? Your identity cannot be accepted by the social environment? And, until now you have been hiding who you really are from your family and the environment for fear of rejection. You are afraid, just in case, they stay away from and blame yourself if they know your true identity.

In the realm of psychology, such a problem is called social rejection. Social rejection occurs when a person's identity cannot be accepted by the environment due to differences in beliefs, outlook on life, goals, sexual orientation, ethnicity, race, and so on.

Well, it's painful indeed when our identity is not in accordance with what is desired by our family and environment. It is painful to realize that who we are is bad in the eyes of others. And, what is even more painful is when we force ourselves into what we are not for the sake of being accepted by the environment.

In many cases, social rejection even makes people who experience it suffer from depression. This is certainly not surprising. The reason is that social rejection makes people who experience it think that they are bad and must change to be accepted by the environment. In fact, changing to what is not ourselves is not an easy matter. For people who experience social rejection, the problem is not only the environment that rejects, but also the inner conflict with themselves.

So, how to deal with that unpleasant situation? What if your identity is not acceptable to the environment and family? Should you change to be accepted by the environment?

To answer the questions above is not easy. Often, people who experience social rejection struggle and wrestle with themselves throughout life. Rejection made him constantly think and look down on himself. At the same time, he was unable to constantly pretend to be someone else.

Now, in this article, I want to share a few views on how to deal with social rejection. Hopefully this article can help you, which is being hit by this complicated problem.

For this reason, see this article for completion.

**Now, let's start with the cause of social rejection.

Why does social rejection occur?**

In the future, I have explained that social rejection occurs when a person's identity cannot be accepted by the social environment. The question is, why is his identity not acceptable? The answer, because he (who experiences social rejection) is different from the others.

These differences can be in the form of differences in views and purpose of life, differences in beliefs, social strata, differences in sexual orientation, and so forth.

Social rejection occurs if the environment is unable to accept the difference with openness. The environment thinks something is wrong with him who is different from the others.

In addition, social rejection also means someone's fear of stigma, isolation, and bullying by the environment against him if the environment knows who he really is. And, because of that fear, he also withdraws from the environment, experiences pressure, stress, depression, or even low self-esteem.

In this sense, it is uncertain whether the environment will reject its existence or not when they know their true identity. What happened, he, whose identity and identity were different from others, assumed that the environment would definitely reject him if they knew who he really was.

Who is wrong?

If the environment thinks something is wrong with him that is different from the others, then is that the opinion? The answer is, maybe yes, right; it could be too, not true. Often, the basis that causes the environment to be reluctant to accept differences is life's views, goals, and beliefs.

The environment has a view of life A, while you, as a member of that environment, have a life view B, for example. In fact, according to view A (which is held by the environment), those who hold different views besides A's view are wrong.

Another example, the environment (family, for example) wants you to be A, whereas you want to be yourself B. Even though, according to the environment, being B is a deviation that must be avoided.

When the basis used to reject others is a view of life or belief, then of course that refusal is basically unjustified. This is because the beliefs and views of life adopted by the environment are based on each perspective. The perspective adopted by your environment is not necessarily the same as your perspective. In fact, right or wrong something depends on which point of view we see it.

Maybe, from the point of view of your environment, being A is wrong. In fact, according to your point of view, being A reflects your identity, reflects who you really are.

Now, facing social rejection because of such a view of life, you don't need to change to be like them. It's not your fault if you have a view of life and beliefs that are different from what is believed by the environment.

The question is, what if the views of life and beliefs adopted by the environment are based on objective reasoning? Hmmm, every environment always claims that the beliefs and views of life they follow are in accordance with objective reasoning. However, even if the outlook on life is based on objective reasoning, still their rejection of you cannot be justified. This is especially true if your identity, which is considered deviant by the environment, does not harm others.

It is different if the "deviation" is harmful to others. Then you need to reflect on who you really are.

The solution?

Supportive environment

The most effective way to deal with social rejection, of course, to find support, to get along with an environment that can accept you for who you are.

Where can you find an environment that supports and accepts you as you are? The answer is, in an environment that embraces life views and beliefs as you believe.

There is no need to be discouraged if you are not accepted in the neighborhood where you live. There are still many environments that can accept you as you are. Out there, there are still many people who don't mind the origin and identity of others. You can be friends with people like that.

But, you need to note, as long as the environment has a positive impact on you, then you can get along with them all along. If in reality the environment only has a negative impact, then you need to look for other similar environments. That is, you can look for other environments that don't concern your identity and identity.

Be yourself

I am sure, whoever has experienced social rejection has always sought justification and truth for his life choices. Now, because of this, often they (people who experience social rejection) experience pressure because every day is preoccupied with their own inner struggles.

When searching for truth, the environment judges that they only seek justification. This makes them (who experience social rejection) blame themselves, thinking that their hearts are filled with ego so they cannot see the truth.

Even worse, they cannot distinguish between seeking justification and seeking the truth. This makes them more depressed because they feel wrong.

So, how to deal with this situation? Above, the author has explained that the basis used to reject others is the belief and outlook on life. In fact, beliefs and views of life do not contain truth or error. The right or wrong of a belief is based on each perspective. No one has the right to force his perspective as a perspective that must be followed by anyone. This is the reality.

Well, by realizing the above facts, then, you, who are facing social rejection do not need to seek justification or truth. Indeed, by embracing your beliefs and outlook on life, you have found the truth, which is the truth that suits your own point of view.

So, there is no need to look everywhere. Be yourself with the confidence and truth of your life.

By accepting the truth of yourself, at least you are at peace with yourself. And being at peace with yourself is an effective way to relieve the pressure and depression you suffer.

Ask and explain

As I explained earlier, social rejection can mean a person's fear of stigma, isolation, and bullying by the environment if they know who he really is. This means that the environment does not yet know its true identity. So, social rejection in a case like this happens because different people (from the environment) perceive and guess that the environment will reject it when they know their true identity.

In fact, not necessarily the environment refused when they knew who he really was.

But, after all, this fear is natural because it is a form of self-defense. What is unnatural is that if the fear makes him withdraw from social life, make him a person who is inferior and inferior, and always sees himself as low.

Well, to overcome that fear, usually, people who are different from others have a way that is quite unique but powerful. What is that way? The trick is "fishing". Hehehe. Yup! He provoked people in his environment by asking them what if someone in his environment had beliefs, views, or ways of life that were different from the beliefs and way of life they lived.

From the answers given by people in that environment, he knows whether the environment will reject it or not.

If the environment answers that for them, the difference is not a problem, then that answer will eliminate the fear of social rejection that it experiences. However, problems arise when people in their environment answer that differences are a big problem for them. This answer will of course make fear of social rejection even worse.

Well, if that is the case, then ask them the reason they cannot accept the difference. Invite them to discuss differences.

From there, you can explain your beliefs and views of life to them. Who knows, after you explain it, their minds are open to differences.

It should be noted, when you ask and discuss with them, you don't have to admit that you are different from them. Especially, if you are not ready for their reaction. You just pretend that you are curious and want to know the views of people in your neighborhood about differences.

In order not to be too flashy and so that they were not suspicious, the conversation began by raising the issue of discrimination which is now rife. After the discussion has flowed, you just mention the difference between yourself and them. Again, remember! You do not need to acknowledge your true identity and make a conversation so that you do not corner yourself.

Approach

Accepting differences does not necessarily mean accepting the views and beliefs of others as true beliefs and need to be followed. Each person has their own standard of truth, as well as you. So, you don't need to expect the environment to recognize, accept, and follow your beliefs that are different from their beliefs.

Sometimes, different beliefs can be accepted not because of the truth content contained in them, but because of the behavior of good adherents.

Therefore, to be accepted by the environment, you need to do good to them.

Show that the way of life you choose benefits others. Show that the way of life you choose has a positive impact on yourself and others.

Be the person responsible for your own life choices. If you can, be a reliable person.

When the environment relies on you, then surely they will not dare to reject you when they know you are different from them.

Admit

If you are no longer able to pretend to be what you are not, acknowledge who you are in front of people you trust. If possible (you are prepared for the risk), admit who you really are in front of your environment.

However, telling widely about your true identity is not really needed. Let only people close to you know who you really are. Other people don't need to know. Why? Because it's not important. Most likely, the environment will actually consider you only looking for attention when you reveal your true identity to them.

If they reject people like you, let the rejection. Most importantly, the people closest to you can accept yourself as they are. If the environment doesn't concern people like you, leave it too. Acting as if nothing is different between you and them is often the safest attitude. You don't need to be the center of attention and answer their questions.

You need to remember, do not force yourself to make a confession. Consider first the risks that you will face when the environment or people closest to you know who you really are. You must measure your strength before making a confession. If it turns out you are not strong enough, then delay the acknowledgment.

So, what factors should you consider to measure your strength? These factors include financial independence, emotional independence, intellectual, and support.

Measure your strengths based on these factors. Your position is strong when you are financially independent. You don't depend on your family or other people. So, if the family forces you to become what they want, you can refuse. They have no right to impose their will on you when you don't depend on them.

In addition, you also have to be emotionally independent. That is, you don't depend on your happiness for others.

When you are emotionally independent, being ostracized by others is not a difficult problem for you.

You also have to have intellectual independence. That is, you are able to give a clear argument and reason why you choose your way of life.

Intellectual independence is important when you want to make a confession remembering the environment will bombard you with a series of questions and blasphemies for your life choices.

Now, with clear arguments and reasons, at least they can respect your life choices.

Finally, even if you are emotionally independent, your position will be stronger when there are groups that support you. Support is needed when you experience exclusion or bullying.

Such is the key to success facing social rejection that I can share with you. Hopefully these methods can be applied successfully so you no longer have to face the nightmare of social rejection.

Finally, please try these ways and don't forget to leave a comment.