Time heals no wounds.

in #spirituality6 years ago


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Hello Steemians, What I am writing in this post is already known by most of you but in the business of everyday life we forget to tend to ourselves and our beloved ones, so I wrote this post as a reminder.

The belief that time heals all wounds is held by many who confuse healing with forgetfulness.

I have seen many adolescents with deteriorating psychological states as their parents quit helping them as they believe they are going to be fine by time.

Passage of time may help distracting us from the wounds and eventually forgetting about them, but it does nothing healing how they affect our personalities, emotions, subconscious mind and perception.
Leaving our wounds unattended allows them get more rooted and more difficult to heal afterwards.

Childhood abuse, domestic violence, a heart break, loosing a parent, old mistakes and many other experiences don’t only leave scars like physical wounds, rather leaving dysfunctional minds, hearts and souls. Their implications unconsciously affect us in such ways we may not be fully aware of and for prolonged time if not brought back to awareness and been properly attended to. The more the experience is difficult the more intense the associated emotion is. Strong emotions are more entitled to affect our subconscious minds.

Many people live with self-sabotaging thoughts, psychological complexes, phobias, obsessions, lack of self-confidence, unjustified fear, and a feeling of powerlessness all of which can be traced back to forgotten old experiences.

Addiction is one of the coping mechanisms that temporarily alleviate the agony of inner wounds that hadn’t been properly dealt with by the individual and his family. More pain is added because of guilt and shame society brings the addict to experience.

According to Eckhart Tolle, every negative emotion we experience leave remnants of associated energy in the body, these small amounts of negative energy accumulate to form what Tolle called Pain Body. The Pain Body is triggered to take over every time the individual experiences negative feelings. That magnifies the pain many folds causing people to overreact and falling into rabbit holes of pain

A deliberate soul search and learning about inner workings, bringing light of awareness to the dark aspects of your psyche and the courage to accept whatever you find regardless of how shameful it feels is of great importance to heal your old wounds.

Fortunately, today we have diverse knowledge to attend to healing process. There are thousands of publications in the arts of physiological, spiritual, sociological, and energy healing. At every country in the world there are healers, therapists, and psychiatrists.

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"The belief that time heals all wounds is held by many who confuse healing with forgetfulness."

This is very true! I also believe you can interchange the word "forgiveness" where you have "forgetfulness" in a sense. The reason being, just because I forgive a person or situation for the pain caused to me doesn't mean I forgot about it over time or that that the emotional scar has healed.

For me the healing has come down to power... either I'm going to have more power than the pain or I'm going to give in to the pain and let the wound fester..And I will never give in to the pain again!

This is very true! I also believe you can interchange the word "forgiveness" where you have "forgetfulness" in a sense. The reason being, just because I forgive a person or situation for the pain caused to me doesn't mean I forgot about it over time or that that the emotional scar has healed.

You are correct, yet forgiveness is critical for healing even if not enough.

either I'm going to have more power than the pain or I'm going to give in to the pain and let the wound fester

This sounds like inner conflict, Healing is more about acceptance, nonjudgmental awareness, making peace with the pain. The more rejection we add to the pain the more energy we give it and the more empowered it gets.

If you are interested you can read two of my old posts: Adopting new approach to your negative emotions. & The Pain Body !!!

I'm learning how to accept the pain. It's not easy but I'm learning.

This is great. Please share the experience. :)

I think time is part of the process of healing wounds but it's unhealthy to assume that it would work on its own. An open cut can heal over time but if it is infected and never cleaned, time can lead to loss of a limb or death. Similarly, if you receive an emotional wound and it's never addressed, all time does is let it fester and get worse. With proper attention, it really can improve over time, but time by itself isn't a magic wand.

I can't agree more, Thanks for such articulate explanation. :)

Absolutely beautiful!🌟
Everything you say resonates with me deeply.
And each word you choose is on point!!!

''Passage of time may help distracting us from the wounds and eventually forgetting about them, but it does nothing healing how they affect our personalities, emotions, subconscious mind and perception.
Leaving our wounds unattended allows them get more rooted and more difficult to heal afterwards.''

Yes Yes Yes!
I wish I could like this a millions times.
It's a funny coincidence you wrote about this a week ago :)
I guess our souls may be aligned 😘 😉

Pleased you liked it. :), and your million likes are highly appreciated. Thank you.

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