SOLUTIONS TO COMMON PROBLEMS IN MARRIAGE

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Marriage is an institution established by God for the benefit of mankind, companionship, friendship, teamwork and to regulate relationship and make man take responsibility for the children which is the byproduct of their sexual relationship. Marriage is exciting and can be very challenging. To make marriages successful I will be highlighted in and discussing some of the common problems faced in marriages and proffering solutions to them.

LACK OF DEFINITION OF ROLES
Prior to marriage, couples often assume that the other will take on certain roles in the relationship (i.e breadwinner, bill payer, house cleaner, nurse, mechanic,etc). But most of the time, newlyweds are over idealistic and neglect to discuss these expectations before marriage. And this puts the marriage under pressure.

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• SOLUTION

Discuss and define your roles in marriage and in love be faithful to your roles.

COMMUNICATION
Relationship thrives when there is effective communication. Many marriages suffer because they are not communicating at all, it is not effective. Misunderstanding, wrong conclusions, anger, resentment, pride, selfishness and self-centeredness are major reasons for communication gap between couples. The more gaps are allowed, the worse the marriage becomes.

• SOLUTIONS

Effective communication is an art that must be learnt must be learnt by all in a relationship. You must agree that there is no alternative to communication. Be willing to talk honestly and sincerely. Hide nothing and be open to reason. Do not insist on your own way. See from your partners point of view and reconsider your stand. Be selfless when conversing . Look out for the right time to share and discuss an issue. Timing is very important in communication if you want to have a good response. A good time will be when your partner is relaxed and happy or in good mood. A bad time will be a time when your partner is under stress and complaining about something else. Use the right tone when talking. Tomes convey message from what was intended. Speak softly with love and not arrogantly and in anger.

SEX AND INTIMACY
A sexual relationship can lapse into a routine or be so limited that it leaves one or both partners dissatisfied. This does not happen overnight; it is a result of two people getting so used to each other that they will fail to appreciate the subtleties of their needs and desires and the fact that these can change over time. Sex then ceases to be a special experience and instead become a ritual like brushing your teeth. Sometimes, too much work Zn pursuit of career can put a partner under pressure such that there is no time for sex and always too tired to have sex, and this in turn affects the marriage.

• SOLUTIONS

It is your duty to satisfy your spouse sexually. It is evil to deny your spouse sex except for health reasons. It is evil to bet with sex or sell sex to your spouse. By selling sex, I mean to only allow sex after your spouse has bought for you want or has bought for you what you want or has done what you requested. Keep your marriage alive and sweet by giving yourself to your spouse willingly and joyfully. Adultery of all kinds should be avoided and the marriage bed undefiled. Fight to keep romance in your marriage. Defeat everything that will want to destroy your romance life. Play and laugh with each other often.

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A forgiving heart helps to create an active sex life. A bitter heart is a closed life. When one gets bitter, darkness overtakes the person and seems to be suspended or forgotten. Bitterness is a load in the heart that makes lovemaking uninteresting and difficult. Therefore to have a fulfilling sexual life with your spouse, you have to practice forgiveness and forbearance always.

Treat your partner nicely and care for each other to create the right atmosphere for love to thrive and desire to be with and pray with each other to abound. This k often of each other and let nothing or anyone take the place of your spouse in your heart. Do not be rigid in your style of sexual intercourse. Be dynamic. Explore new techniques that will spice up your sex life.

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