BEING A GOOD FATHER
BEING A GOOD FATHER
Caring for your children is an important part of what it means to love them and worry for them. Good care means giving them a safe and loving environment, helping them to learn the rules of life (for example to share, to respect the others, etc.) and to develop a good self-esteem. Also sometimes you will have to preventing them from doing things they do not owe is as important as encouraging them to do things that you think they should do.
Why is child care important?
Rules are an important part of daily life. They allow us to get along well with others. If children do not learn to behave, they will have difficulty relate, not only with adults, but also with other children. They will have difficulty to learn at school, they will behave badly and may end up feeling sad and frustrated
How can I help you? It is important to make sure that the child feels safe, loved and valued, point out when he is behaving well. The trick to this is to find strategies that work well, both for you and the child. Here are some ideas:
Be consistent: if you do not follow the agreed rules, your child will learn that no by paying attention to you, probably you will end up yielding. Give him lots of encouragement: let your child know when he has done something right and happy that you are for it For example, give him a hug, a kiss and remind him how good he is.
You must do it right after I've done something right.
Plan ahead: it is very helpful that both you and your child know the rules of a certain situation before it happens. Do not invent them on the fly (for example, if bedtime is 8, make sure you both respect it). Involve your child: sit down with your child and explain what it is to behave well. Maybe you Surprise how much you can agree on. Keep calm: this can be difficult in the heat of the moment, but it is very helpful. Stay calm and be clear in your orders. For example: "please turn off the TV", or "it's bedtime."
Be clear with your child: for example: "please pick up your toys" he says to the child exactly what you expect me to do. Say only "be good" no. If your son does not he understands you, he will not be able to obey you. Think short and clear orders. Be realistic: it is not a good idea to offer a wonderful prize or a terrible punishment if you will not fulfill it. It is much better to offer small prizes than punishments. By example: "when you have ordered your room, I will give you an ice cream". Do not expect miracles.
If your child has ordered only part of the room, give him the same prize for having started.
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