The FEELING of Self-Esteem

in #steemiteducation6 years ago (edited)

From my last article:

https://steemit.com/steemiteducation/@allandharvey/self-image-critical-to-long-term-behaviour-change

Self-Esteem

Having covered self-image as the foundation to building self-confidence, let's chat about self-esteem, as the next natural step towards gaining more confidence in oneself.

It goes without saying that if you like what you SEE with regard to your self-image i.e. Skills, Looks, Intelligence and Personal worth, you will FEEL good about yourself and are likely to be a happier person. The converse is obviously also true. Not liking what you SEE leads to you feeling bad, unhappy and dissatisfied with your lot in life

Some describe self-esteem as the opinion you have of yourself. I want to add that it is also how you FEEL about yourself.

Dr Nathaniel Branden says that the results of a good self-esteem are "we succeed more often than we fail. We form more nourishing relationships. We expect more of life and ourselves."

On the other hand a low-self-esteem results in a lack of confidence; "If we lack confidence, we give up easily, fail more often and aspire to less. Result: we get less of what we want."

We all know that despite a great self-image we do not always feel good about ourselves. This is often governed by the way we behave. We are after-all human and prone to disappointing ourselves and others. We do or say things, that on second thoughts, we might not have done, and so we do not feel good about ourselves.

An antidote for feeling ‘low’ is service.

Do something for someone in need, do it anonymously if possible and note how that lifts your spirits. There is always someone worse off than you, emotionally, spiritually or physically.

Having a solid foundation of self-image, provides a springboard to bounce back when we disappoint ourselves or others and feel a little low. Instead of breaking down our self-worth and bemoaning our weaknesses, understand that feelings fluctuate during any one day from good to bad and so on. Bounce back.

The consequence of a weak self-image, under similar circumstances, is that our self-esteem literally takes a dive below that foundation and is sucked into a world of negativity and hopelessness. One undesirable action after another sucks us further and further, into the quicksand of depression and low self-worth, often with dire consequences.

Self-confidence is our next topic and so look out for the next episode.

Enjoy the Journey, LOVE the Destination!!

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Really enjoying this series of yours.

this gent is quite impressive

Love your quote: "The antidote for feeling low is service"

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