SCHOOL FOR PARENTS: "Wrong" behavior on the part of the parents.

Children, when they are born, do not have a textbook with them that teaches us to be good parents. Unfortunately, our behavior with them is often incorrect.

SourceParents always try to teach their children the best they know and can do.

But sometimes they do not realize that their behavior towards children can be "poisoned", which can be harmful to them and not good.

In this publication, I will try to suggest how you can never behave with children and convince them why you should not have any negative behavior when it comes to educating your children.

"Wrong" behavior on the part of the parents..

As you know, good intentions alone are not enough. It is important that we be self-critical and that we recognize in ourselves the types of "poisoned" behavior, which does not bring good children, but continuous damage.

It can negatively affect your self-esteem, and lead to very bad consequences in the future.

But ... Are parents the only ones responsible for this behavior? No, they often simply "copy" their parents' behavior. After all, we are not taught a "subject" of this kind: to be parents.

We arrived at this mainly based on our experience.

Here I describe 7 types of "negative" behavior by parents. You may recognize it in this description of yourself. In this case, you should not close this information and deny everything. After all, the interests of the child are the most important. So let's start.

1. Be supercritical

It is not so easy. On the one hand, it is good to indicate the child's mistakes, so that he understands, where something was done wrong and could correct the error or prevent its repetition.

SourceOn the other hand, constant criticism is not good. Such criticism makes the child have doubts about himself, that he can not believe in his abilities.

2. Punishing negative emotions.

We often talk about positive and negative emotions, whereas in reality negative emotions can also be positive. Fear, for example, in some situations can save our lives.

SourceTherefore, we must allow our children to express all emotions. Let them cry, show their sadness, do not hide their fear, if they are afraid ... They can not repress their emotions.

3. Decide for a child

Children are children, but this does not mean that they can not have the right to decide. Of course, there are certain things that parents must control, but many decisions that children can and should make.

SourceAllow your children to make the decisions they can make, so they will be encouraged to develop self-confidence.

4. instill fear

Children must live in an atmosphere of security and trust, and not in an atmosphere of fear.

SourceIf they have to be afraid all the time, they feel intimidated and frightened; They even scare themselves. It is very important that we do not inspire this feeling, because living with fear means not living at all.

5. instill the fault

Sometimes parents manifest their complaints and disappointments in the lives of children, which makes them feel guilty for things that children can not answer.

SourceFeelings of guilt can take root in them, and this is plagued with great problems in the future. No one should impose a sense of guilt on others, much less on parents, on their children.

6. Love must be unconditional.

Another serious error that parents make when they put their love for the child in dependence on some conditions. The love of the parents for the children must be unconditional, it should not depend on their achievements or their behavior.

SourceIf you deliberately create such conditions, children will feel that they themselves do not deserve love, and this will be a heavy burden on them forever.

7. Do not limit children.

Sometimes we do not impose restrictions on children, we leave them alone. This is a mistake.

SourceChildren need certain "limits", restrictions, help them feel safe in their relationships with the world they open.

The restrictions are useful, without them the child's behavior can become arrogant and challenging.

If you recognize that you are using some of the behaviors described, in the education of your children; It is important to restructure, change the paradigm and never go back to that behavior.

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