Tackle the crying tactic of children

in #steemiteducation5 years ago (edited)

All children may cry whenever they are sad but some may use crying as a method to manipulate their parents and adults.

There are also many children who are good at squeezing out tears whenever they want something and they are capable of adjusting their emotions to cry.


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We cannot stop children from crying as it is a natural expression of sadness but the use of crying to get the things that they want regularly is not acceptable.

We should not be manipulated and give in to their request the moment they cry as it can become a very bad habit.

Ignore

One of the best coping methods that parents should learn is to ignore the nonsense by their children.

Many parents often give their immediate attention and give in to requests of children because they start to cry and throw tantrum.

It is definitely embarrassing to have our children crying loudly in public places and we feel like finding a cave to hide.


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When you give in once, you would have to give in twice that lead to many to come.

We need to learn how to stand firm to our decision when we have first disapproved the request so that crying does not become an easy button to press whenever they want something that we disagree to.

Learn to ignore and it would not be easy. Do not give attention to them until they can stop crying.

We may get the attention of the people around us but we need to ensure our children know that crying does not work for us when their requests are unreasonable.

Isolation

This may not necessary be a good method for every child but it is worth trying.

Very often, children cry to get attention so they may even look at us as they cry.

When we are not close to them but move a short distance whenever they cry, it gives a signal that we do not want them to continue their misbehaviour by not staying near them.

Nevertheless, we should continue to peek by the corner of our eyes to see that they are still around us for safety reasons especially for the young ones.


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It is often hard to explain to young kids of why they should not have what they demand due to the reasons that we may have.

We may just want to give them the space to cry rather than shouting at them leading to our emotions being affected.


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The important trick is never get emotionally affected by them as they can see that they can manipulate our emotions.

We are also setting good role models to them on how to deal with unreasonable people in future by staying calm and let others vet out their emotions before explaining the reasons calmly.

We should give attention when our children are able to calm their emotions to indicate that it is the behaviour that we want.

Discuss the behaviour

Children are unable to listen to us whenever they are already in the crying mood.

We should not discuss the matter immediately especially they may continue when they are aware of the people around them.

We should find the right time to discuss the behaviour and we should not just forget about the incident.


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When we are alone with our child, we can explain calmly the reason why we cannot give in to their demand.

We must still try to let them know our thoughts and good intentions so that there would not be future misunderstanding that they use them against us when they are older.

I must admit that some memories can stay with them so never think that they are too young to understand but we need to find the right time and place to do it.

In conclusion

This article has only given some ideas of how to deal with children who often use crying to get parents to give in.

We should allow children to cry when they are sad as it is a natural way to release their feelings but it should not be used as a method to get adults to give in to their unreasonable demands.

There can be many strategies but every child is different so you need to see what does work and what does not work.


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It is always wise to discuss with other experienced parents as we may get more ideas and give them a try.

Sometimes, what works before may not work now.

We need to have more tricks under our sleeves to cope with the challenges of parenthood.

We should also continue to show them that we love them even when we do not give in to their demands.



Disclaimer: This is my personal reflection and I am not in any position to instruct anyone what they should do. I am not responsible for any action taken as a result of this post. My post can only be a reference for your further research and growth. By reading this post, you acknowledge and accept that. All images and pictures were taken from google images that are free from copyright under labelled for reuse.

Posted from my blog with SteemPress : http://fun2learn.vornix.blog/2018/12/02/tackle-the-crying-tactic-of-children/

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