Part Four: Things I Wish I Had Known Before Becoming a Parent. Ghosts and Hormones Are Real

Hormones, and ghosts, maternal instincts, spirits, energies. Cleanses, spirituality... something.

Children exist at different wavelengths than us. Their little bodies, are little centers of energy that just go. I really don't know how to explain it, but there's something that happens when you spend LOTS of time with a few kids, that gets you moving at their wavelength and changes your perception of things wildly.

There are all kinds of scientific explanations for the "somethings" that happen when you become a parent: hormones, growing pains, loss of sleep, mommy brain. Etc.

However, I wish I would have just sat back and enjoyed the new visions instead of trying to find an explanation for them.

Life is sometimes easier when things make sense, but sometimes, its ok to go along with your kid and believe that the fairies helped the clean their room.

I noticed magical somethings soon after my daughters birth, but it took an auntie chastising me to start taking authority of these somethings.

Its ok to act just because something doesn't feel right

This happens to non-parents too, but the warnings somehow heightened for me when I became a mom.

My oldest was a little hamburger of a baby when she was born, she was born early to an impending surgery, and at least 4 weeks of NICU. We knew it would be like that since 20 weeks gestation, so there were no surprises.

Once of the first times, I was watching her get care, a nurse was taking her temp with a machine that was bigger than the child, and the machine was in the tiny crib. I didn't like it there, it made me uncomfortable, but I didn't say anything. Who was I to question the nurse?

And then she bopped my newborn on the head with the big machine.

My auntie turned around and (metaphorically) bopped me on the head. "What's the point of having mother's instict, if you don't use it?"

It's more than instinct, it has backing

Whenever instinct comes to me, I take note. Later on in the day, I give myself time to analyze and usually find that there was something going on that could explain my instinct.

With the nurse, close inspection found, dirty shoes, acrylic nails, and hanging tags. Al big NO NO's for nurses.

But sometimes, there isn't time to micro inspect your situation, sometimes, your gut hurts and you just act.

Imaginary friends are real

Many of us have heard about someone having an imaginary friend. Less of us talk about how with more kids come more fast moving energies. Shadows, sounds, lights, fits of giggles that come from nowhere, thoughts and words that you didn't teach them, and other "weird" things that kids do.

I like to just admit that everything is not explainable, and maybe my daughter was laughing with a little girl at the park. Even though I didn't see anyone. Including parents. And maybe I should keep my house free of dirty laundry cause the other kid swears that monsters live in laundry piles.

Of course, I could try to explain it to children's imagination. And maybe that light that came in through the house was just a car driving by.

But really. I feel angst when I have dirty laundry. I am not a clean freak. And life is better when all our clothes are clean. Explainable. Sure. I go with, there are monsters in the laundry pile, and I slay them with my trusty washing machine filled with magical water. I even add magic potion to turn those monsters into good smelling folded clothes.

More illogical things will occur and you just kind of have to roll with it

Maybe some people will be able to explain hormones, but I know becacuse and a shrug are sometimes real life answers from doctors.

I understand that as people get older, their perceptions change, but I wish I would have been more open to magic occurring, faster.

Sure, you can explain plants growing as science, but its silly not to see the magic in it.

You will become a person you didn't know before

You won't completely change of course, but a person who has always been there will emerge, because there is a whole new perception of you that is being born. The opinions of your elementary school companions and even your parents won't matter. You children's perceptions matter now.

And they don't care about your grades, your income, or your faults. They will look at you with and see beauty, never having had anything else to compare your beauty to.

You will be a delicious cook, even if its just you being the best maker of toast, or the best heater of canned soup. Something about how you do it will spell perfection for your child. If it isn't your food, then they will see you as a wonderful artist, or hair designer, or beauty queen, or something they see a certain perception of you.

Im glad I know that something exists now.

It makes it easier to just shrug and keep going about your day when your child starts giggling by themselves at the park.

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Part One: Instant Love is Real But Doesn't Always Happen

Part Two: Children Do Not Fulfill You

Part Three: Its OK to Change Your Mind