What's wrong with that child? / Lack of discipline or ADHD.

in #steemiteducation6 years ago (edited)
Hello friends, today I want to talk to you through a very close case, about attention deficit hyperactivity disorder, do you hear weird, right ?. The situation is that maybe many of us do not understand different families, for particular situations with their children.

Surely at some point we have witnessed the attitudes of children that make us think they may be badly educated by their parents, however, there are times when it may not be so, since different psychological studies have shown that there are other types of factors that can cause such behavior. Now, if you have already heard about it, it would be interesting to read these experiences because with them you can help others.

The topic on which I am going to focus this publication is the Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder called by the abbreviations ADHD, according to specialists it is defined as follows:
ADHD is a behavioral syndrome with neurobiological bases and a strong genetic component. It can occur throughout the person's life, but it manifests itself particularly in the life span between birth and adolescence.
I was motivated to write about this topic, with the purpose of explaining my participation and collaboration in the case of a close family that is going through this special condition. Maybe, and I hope so, there are few lines that can serve as guidance to parents who go through similar situations and can get information to face that circumstance.

First of all I will manifest a particular case in the family of my godson's father, where your youngest child is in some way an active, restless, moved, nervous, aggressive child, this for some people can be considered normal, but often behind a child with these characteristics hides a wider problem. Since the child began preschool the symptoms were increasing, to the point where he is currently repeating the second grade school year because it presents difficulties in reading and in mathematics, additionally he needs help with the study, we must prepare a schedule of additional classes because their educational level is lower than that of their peers. His behavior in the classroom, although not bad, is considered to be regular in some way since sometimes it is affectionate and peaceful, but daily he becomes very restless and escapes from the classroom.

The presence of a hyperactive child in that home has affected the relationship between parents, children, siblings and other family members. Likewise, the level of stress in the home has increased, leading to differences in attention and affection between siblings.

The eldest brother of the child that I have referred to so far, is in the adolescence stage and due to his age difference it is difficult or complicated to accept the situation of his brother, this of course becomes another inconvenience for his parents because they do not have the support or help that should be provided in relation to the condition of their younger brother. The brother manifests jealousy, envy and intolerance since often there are arguments between brothers, in fact, this situation causes the parents a lot of fatigue, stress and an overwhelming condition that excludes them from intervening in the discussions of their children.

The particular condition of the child, generated a situation so complicated that it managed to emotionally affect the mother, she felt frustration and thoughts of failure in the education of her son, to the point that for more attention and effort that she put with her son, she felt that I was not a good mother. These mixed feelings of course negatively affected the communication and affective relationships that are established in your home. These are the situations that greatly affect the family and their closest friends because there is nothing sadder than seeing your family deteriorate little by little.

Now, I think that to be able to help a person the most important thing is that both the affected person and those around them must accept that "there is a problem" , and together they can face the condition that afflicts them. In this way, understand that seeking a favorable solution for both is the priority, of course this is the most difficult part, admitting and assuming that although a child is so small who suffers, requires greater effort and support.

This problem involves the whole family because it requires support, both moral and emotional, for this reason, I believe that the religious bond that unites us is more than enough to contribute my bit and help them. One of the strategies used to collaborate with them was to inquire about the topic, in this way to inform them about the possible solutions or alternatives that they can use to begin to solve and improve the quality of the child and their parents.

The first was to investigate and learn about what was happening in this particular case, and for this the Steemit community helped a lot. Here are a lot of articles with a lot of well-documented information, among the read I got information on the definition and considerations of ADHD syndrome, which fit perfectly in the child's attitudes, later I will leave the links of the articles that helped in the orientation of this family.

Among the first recommendations found, I managed to get a material that helped me convince the parents of the problem they had with their youngest son, since even with all the inconveniences presented, they did not accept the idea that their son had a special condition.

Once that first obstacle was overcome, we proceeded to look for information about institutions, child or youth psychiatrists, neurologists, psychologists, among others. Several days we were inquiring and looking for information about it, many people were asked and numerous phone calls were made, until an appointment was made at the Children's Hospital.

However, to improve the trip, the necessary preparations and contacts were made before the trip, in this way we try to reduce the possible inconveniences that could arise since there was the possibility of some kind of discomfort, by exposing the child to a road trip more than six hours.

On the day of the appointment in the hospital, they treated the child in the company of their mother, there they applied several tests and revisions, and among many, one of them to the mother called her a lot of attention, the child could be said to be calm, but the doctor gave her a chocolate and in a matter of seconds, everything changed, the child took an aggressive attitude, began to scream, to kick the wall, the door, to throw the toys, among other things, and while the mother told the details, seemed impressive to me because I never knew that attitude so graphically described. Then the result; "The child has a condition called Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD)."

This disorder is intrinsic to the person who suffers it, according to the author Raquel García Ordóñez D.N.I. 74915485-T:
The disorder is due to a neuropsychological alteration that causes dysfunctions in the mechanisms of Executive Control of Behavior, which directly affects the psychological processes of sustained attention, working memory, self-regulation of motivation and affect, internalization of language and processes of analysis and synthesis directly involved in the tasks of teaching-learning and school adaptation.
Another consequence of this alteration is that it causes damage to the child's psychological stability and social relationship, as well as emotional and cognitive development.

In the hospital, the other representatives who were on the site shared about their own experiences, which I will narrate below, since it could be used by the reader, as a reference to similar cases:
  • Some 9-year-old twins had their mom stressed, she said they were so restless that they did not accept them in school, and they were not expelled because it was against the rights of the child. therefore, what they did in the school was simply to assign study guides for the house, the content of the guides were used to perform special tests in each school period. Leaving the responsibility, attention, care and teaching, completely to the mother.
  • Other situation manifested, includes a mother who was taking her nap and woke up by a strong smell of gas that spread throughout the house, she desperately searched for her son and through the window she saw him most entertaining while playing, when he went out the door was locked, apparently the boy had opened a gas burner in the kitchen and when he came out to play he passed the lock to the door, only god helped so that no misfortune would happen. Regrettably, the mother who went through this inconvenience told how impotence was so much that she mistreated her son and before she was reported, she sought help with the Municipal Council of the Child and Adolescent Law (CMDNNA) and told them what happened but the only that recommended him to seek psychiatric help and family therapy.

It is so impressive in what a child with (ADHD) can do if not treated in time, in the case of this disorder or similar in adolescents, their conduct presents behaviors of defiance to authority figures, confrontations with adults or with peers, episodes of physical or verbal aggression. They tend to lose their temper easily, get upset or angry at anything. They are very argumentative, they annoy others and can become very unstable people. In the worst case, they can often be involved in fights that often start them themselves, or have aggressive and harassing behavior towards others. They can attack the properties of others due to destructive behavior or theft.

One of the alternatives or treatments assigned to the child with ADHD includes the application of oral medications, which has allowed his improvement and behavior, is no longer restless and the quality of life of that family has improved considerably. This treatment will be applied together with a series of special therapies and activities that involve family participation, a special diet was also indicated, well, it is not a diet as such, it is an adequate and balanced feeding that will help you better in its development, this with the purpose of adjusting the prescribed medication.

This situation allows us to analyze the conditions making it clear that it is not easy to be parents and maintain a home when there is an unfavorable health condition. My advice is that parents should be loving, perseverant, communicative with their children, patients, should establish rules and limits in their home, not mistreat their children, should be guides for their children and when they have a problem no matter how small You should always seek help with specialists such as: psychologist, attend family therapies in order to maintain a family unity and above all happy.

Then, I will leave the links of some of the articles I got in this excellent community, which served as a guide to this family, in obtaining the necessary support to address the condition of ADHD of their youngest child.

The content of these post indicates a series of attitudes on the part of children that can help in the possible detection of the disorder:

The following articles allow guidance on activities that can help the child, adult or adolescent with ADHD:

These articles talk about the disorder and its possible treatments:

This post talks about the experience of drugs as a treatment for ADHD:


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