How to deal with tantrums of children

oscarcede (64)in #steemiteducation • 5 years ago (edited)

Children sometimes get hysterical: they fall to the ground, beat with their hands and feet, destroy everything that surrounds them. Where is it from and what to do with it?

SourceSometimes it is said that children's hysteria is always a reaction to an adult, a response to the fact that there is something alarmingly wrong in the relationship between an adult and a child. This is not entirely true, it is an exaggeration of the role of an adult.

The tantrums of children have many roots, this is not only and is not always a reaction to the wrong behavior of an adult.

Disobedience and hysteria are symptoms related to age, sometimes signs that a child is tired or sick, and most of the time it is a child's test of parental stability, a test of strength: "Is it possible, parents, disobey him? "

In general, children begin to be hysterical, peeping at how other children do this, after which they test hysterical with their parents.

If parents are really allowed to be hysterical and support them with their actions, the child begins to actively use hysteria.

How to deal with tantrums and where the nerves resist the cry of a child?

The answers are simple: tantrums are not allowed from the beginning.

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Remember that hysteria is an emotion, and this, in turn, is just a signal that is sent to key people with the aim of transmitting information.

On the other hand, tell the child how to persecute his children without crying, that is, teach him to make an application.

The magic formula: "When you cry and scream, I do not understand ... Tell me calmly, what do you want?"

If the child was able to stop crying and asked calmly, if it is possible that he is going to meet with him, the correct actions of the child should be rewarded. It is important that if a healthy child gets everything he really needs, he needs less than he only wants.

How you respond specifically in a particular situation is not important at all. The quick response can be almost anything, it is of little importance compared to your system of behavior, the system of your relationship with the child.

If you know how to raise a child in principle, once you can afford premature smoothness and unwarranted stiffness. Everything is not terrible, if your main line of education is correct.

The main rule: "You are the main one".

Mom, you're home too! Do not be fooled by tantrums. Handle the child, do not let the child control it.

SourceIf you need to take care of your business, and the child is screaming and does not want to let it go, do it. The child will cry, maybe even scream: nobody has died for that yet.

It is not harmful to health, but it develops the child's breathing and makes it more resistant. If you do not want to wash (get dressed, go for a walk), you need to wash (get dressed, go for a walk); Wash it, put it on, send it to walk, and your protests are your choice and your entertainment.

The best father is a strong father who uses his strength to care for the child and knows that it is okay.

Follow the main rule, but do not go against yourself.

SourceIf, in complying with the Rule, you doubt even more about your own righteousness, internally you consider yourself a monster, "an abominable mother," a "moral monster." Then you can not rest. Fanaticism is not necessary, exceptions are possible, when you can not rest, look for more flexible options.

The most important thing: to think about the future, to cultivate the right habits. Responding to persistent tantrums is the same as putting out a fire that has already started.

The art of the parents is not to deftly defeat a child or to anticipate a difficult struggle, but to prevent a struggle from arising so that the child does not become the habit of hysteria. The idea is "to prevent hysteria."