PUNISHMENT FOR BAD GRADES? EXTRAORDINARY AWARD FOR GOOD GRADES?

in #steemiteducation6 years ago (edited)

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How should parents act in front of their children's grades?

psychologists explain why NONE of these two extremes is good.
There are two types of parents, those who punish their children drastically when they have poor grades at the end of the semester and those who reward them excessively when they get good results. The answers are opposite and many times, they are extreme.
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With regard to punishment, many parents are frustrated by the failure of their children and live this in the first person. In other words, they project their frustrations on them "as if to amend the goals that were not achieved in their childhood". Other times, they feel that they have failed as parents, they worry about what they will say and this, in the end, leads to reactions of fury or strong punishments that do not really contribute to the solution of the situation.

Paying attention to their problems

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The problem of falling into this type of punishment is that you tend to ignore the feelings of children. After all, it is they who are facing certain frustration and subjecting them to this, it does not change the results.
In addition to the excess of tasks, many parents insist on turning their children into geniuses, this means that the burden for them is enormous, exhausting them.
What does this mean? That an extreme punishment is only something counterproductive because it increases the frustration or the feeling of failure rather what should prevail are the interests of the children. In other words, if a student, for example, dreams of being an engineer, then it is not necessary to be extraordinary in all areas. The demands are high and it should not and can not be good for everything, agrees and suggests that parents should think of more than notes. Not all students have the same skills to adapt to a traditional system. Therefore, more than the grade, we must pay attention to the
student's progress and disposition towards learning.

Not turning bad grades into a family drama and focusing attention on good communication.

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Let your child know that, despite bad grades, you still love him. Paternal love can not be conditioned to school results. He must also know that he is capable of approving, that it is not impossible, that we trust him, It is about being a support and understanding what the causes of those results were without comparing them with others. The goal of this is to get over it and go at your own pace.

Giving prizes

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With respect to prizes, some experts also consider that it is not good to exaggerate, or in other words, to go to extremes.
This means, do not fall into the logic of investing millions in expensive gifts just to see a report card full of outstanding. A gift does not encourage a sense of responsibility, but arouses the desire or the need to acquire prizes over and over again.The child must be taught to be satisfied with his or her achievements, instead of teaching him or her to seek success at school only to be praised or rewarded.
Why? Because a dependency is generated and the child studies only for and for that. Other experts say that it is not wrong to recognize the achievements, but always in a balanced way. No need to resort to the material prize ... "If you use a reward system, that is in the subject that they like the most.

The prize can be something as simple as an exit to the cinema, In teenagers, there may be certain permits such as arriving at 12:00 a.m. after a party and noon at 11:00 p.m. In the smallest and in families with more than two children, it works perfect to design activities to share one by one. For example, a mother can take her daughter to eat an ice cream and share an afternoon together generating a bond. The secret is to do it one by one, to give them personalized attention.

whatever the parents' option, the most important thing is that they agree.
They are a team and that coherence should always be visible to all children. It is not good for a father to practice one way and the other to choose a different one. The same goes for the prizes; If you decide to give prizes, these should be for all children, considering their tastes and learning rhythms. " Now that the end of the semester is over, it is essential not to leave aside these tips and take advantage of the holidays so that the children have a necessary break. Some parents, based on the results, continue to demand their children even in these rest stages; This happens because many believe that perhaps you can forget what you have learned, however, it is not necessary and disconnecting will always be a benefit.

Support

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Beyond the notes, the fundamental is to be a support and find a balance when making decisions, after all, the most key thing is to understand the processes that students live because this is the simplest way to know what measurements can be taken. An extreme punishment is not the answer, and neither is a prize of billions; the answer lies in listening, understanding, supporting, evaluating and taking balanced measures, according to the needs of all of them.
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