SCHOOL FOR PARENTS: Simple ways to motivate a child.

Let's try to find out what motivates your child and what parents can do to develop children's motivation.

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External and internal motivation.

Motivation is what makes us act in a certain way or repeat certain behaviors. The motivation can be external and internal.

Intrinsic motivation is an internal desire to achieve goals. Intrinsic motivation can lead to success in a career, relationship or simply experiencing pleasant emotions (for example, joy or peace).

People who are motivated by nature struggle constantly for development and seek new ways of self-improvement. An internally motivated child does not need to be told what to do and how to behave to achieve the goal.

But if the child is not motivated, he needs constant reminders and external motivation to do the job. External motivation is caused by external factors. They can be, for example, money, power or fame. For a child, external motivation may be permission to watch television, promise to buy ice cream, toys, etc.

How to motivate a child? You just need to know their preferences and aversions. Using this, you can motivate him better.

Extrinsic motivation can be used to make the child act the way you want. But it is internal motivation that helps you achieve success in life, to create healthy relationships and to improve. External motivators make a person addicted. When the reward disappears, the person stops showing a certain behavior. How to make a child do something without rewards?

Simple ways to motivate a child.

How to know what motivates a child? Very simple: you need to understand him as a person. Look at the child as a person with their tastes and preferences. Find out what areas or objects interest you.

SourceWhen a person likes something, try to obtain it with some effort. The same happens with your son. Knowing what you want, you will understand how to motivate it.

So, what motivates a child?

• goals
• overcome difficulties, competition;
• new habilities;
• instructions;
• rewards
• support for

Do not confuse the promotion with bribery. You can offer your child ice cream or chocolate in exchange for the desired action, depriving him of certain privileges if he refuses to do something. But before taking any action, ask yourself some questions:

Does the method you use work?
How much time can external motivation use to motivate a child?
What happens when you stop motivating a child?

External motivation disappears over time. Therefore, it should focus on the development of the internal motivation of the child. Consider how this can be achieved:

1. Set goals

SourceThe easiest way to motivate a child is to set goals for him. The goals give the child a perspective and direction that simplifies the task. The goals can be simple: go to bed on time, have time to go to school in the morning, learn lessons on time, have time to play, etc.

2. Plan

When you know which direction to take and what to do, it means you have a plan. With him it is easier for you to achieve your goal. Planning motivates your child to reach their goals, as it provides guidance at each stage. Help your child plan the details of what interests them.

3. Encourage

Stimulation is probably the most common form of motivation. But, as we said before, it is not necessary to turn the promotion into a bribe. The stimulus works in certain situations, but it does not help to mold the values of character and life.

4. explain

In conversations with a child, it is important to explain why it is reasonable to do so, and not otherwise. Children are curious and want to get all the answers.

5. Inspire

SourceSet a good example and inspire your child to do good deeds. The logic is simple: if you want your child to behave well, study well in school, be responsible, be positive and respect other people, show the example of how to do it.

6. animate

Your son can not always and in everything succeed. The failures can demotivate it. Your support will allow you to persevere in achieving your goals, despite the difficulties. Support is a form of positive reinforcement, because it recognizes the child's efforts.

7. Appreciate

Appreciate the efforts the child makes to reach the goal. Show your child that you value his efforts, as this motivates him to continue showing good behavior.

8. Turn tasks into competition.

When we compete, we try to win instinctively. This can motivate us to new achievements.

9. Give an option and explain the consequences.

SourceOne way to motivate a child is to give him a sense of control over what he does when he chooses. The child is not allowed to choose whether to go to school or not, but he can choose where to go. Similarly, children can create the illusion of choice by providing two good options. Children are more likely to do what they choose, rather than what their parents expect. Therefore, having an option motivates them.

10. Help your child learn new skills.

Encourage your child to improve at school, teaching him the right skills and giving him the right tools.

11. Help your child accept their shortcomings.

Everyone has disadvantages. But you must not determine if you will succeed in life. Teach your child to accept his faults. Help your child find ways to benefit from his or her weaknesses.

Finally, sometimes the best way to motivate a child is to find something fun in their activities.

 

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