I wish my parents could understand me. This is a not so short description (story) of how suffocating living with my parents could be.

Yes, I know parents are the only people on earth that truly wish you do better than them. They are the only ones that can talk trash to your face but praise you in the presence of visitors or stranger.

They always want what they think its best for you, which is awesome but at the same time, it can be very painful, if they never care to know what you want for yourself. If they don’t even care to know about the path you have chosen for yourself, let alone counselling you about it.

If all they know is that they have chosen the right path for you and every other path other than theirs, is totally wrong, then welcome to a world full of agony.

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Three months ago, I was in the church, while the pastor was firing prayers, everybody was standing up except me that was busy sleeping. I was not just sleeping, I guess I was also snoring in a way that God won’t forgive. If I mistakenly fell off my seat, the whole church will think I am possessed by 7 demons and need immediate deliverance.

Then a hand suddenly tapped me from behind and behold it was my dad.
Can you see that laptop is making you more useless as the day goes by? He said,
And went back to his seat while still staring at me like he eyes can snipe me from miles away.

I stood up, yawned and stretched my neck while trying to cast away the evil spirit of sleep.
After the church service, on our way home, I regretted why I forgot my earpiece that very day. As usual, I know the drill, he will keep on giving my parental advice till thy kingdom come.

You knew today Is Sunday, but you are so addicted to Computer and internet that couldn’t sleep all night to wake up early and prepare for church, I woke you up this morning. At your age, I still wake you up for the church, Isn’t it a shame? Only for you to get to church and sleep like you have a part-time night security job He said…

He is correct, I just can’t do the right thing at the right time. I was up all night, reading about cryptocurrency. Since I am so new to the system and there is nobody to teach me anything about it.
Over here, almost everybody thinks crypto as a scam. As its hard to understand, its easier to assume its scam. Left for me, If I have my way as the president, I will advise crypto should be taught in high school. I don’t think I will be having so much headache if I learnt it in at a very tender age.

As I was saying, Oh yes I don’t do the right thing at the right time because I don’t believe there is anything like the right time, I push the WRONG time to the RIGHT. I don’t like procrastinating and once I bite on, I don’t let go till I am done.

You are too lazy, Try to be useful, sitting behind your laptop all day won’t get you anywhere. Learn some skills, during the school holiday, I paid for you to go learn how to repair electronics. You went there for a week and ran away My dad still kept on talking while my ears were itching me…

It’ll always my pleasure to abandon any knowledge I consider worthless to me. In high school, I always purposely score F9 in a stupid subject called business studies because I refuse to do the practical which carries 50%.

Can you imagine teaching students TYPEWRITER in this century? What a waste of precious time. Instead of using that time to better our Computer Studies, where we are been taught Qbasic and FORTRAN.
For those of you who know nothing about programming, Teaching somebody Qbasic is like buying your child a Brick Game in 2018.
Who the heck still program with those outdated languages?

It’s fun to know the practical part of electronics but there are thousands out people out there who can perfectly do the same. If there is something I love about electronics, it’s the software or programming part of it, you hardly see people who are good at it. If you are excellent at it, you are like a unicorn, but my parents don’t even believe anything useful that can come out of me sitting behind the computer at this age.

He always reminds me how I will be the best in my class if I should devote half of the time I waste on the computer in reading my books. Also, reminds me of how I was always among the best in elementary school, but I am barely among the average now.

That’s right, lately, I read more crypto company’s whitepapers more than I read my school textbooks. I just read to pass my exams.
I once invested all my time in education when I was narrow-minded and thought of education as the only key to unlock the padlock of the future. It was so true until we all got the key (education) and our government stole the padlock (the future).

Besides education was so amazing until graduates started working for dropouts. Dropouts who work to live while the Educated live to work. If there is one thing I hate the most, it will be raising my children the way most of us grew up. Having parents that leave home by 6 am and return by 6 pm

Thank God for steemit, I have met many people who have proved to me that's its 100% possible to work and live a perfect life from home.
I am not really mad because they don't understand what I am doing but because they refuse to learn. You know how painful it is that I can’t even teach them how to use an android phone and internet, let alone talking about crypto.
My Dad will always tell me All phones are the same, the sole purpose of it is to pass important information to one another. Just that your phone has more features that enable you to waste your time in various ways like chatting.

I chuckle, I know he really knows the difference between our phones. Like how he wastes money daily on buying newspapers while I read news from the net and even watch videos attached to the news.
When you really want to do/learn something, you find a way and push yourself, but when you don’t, you find excuses to justify your action.

If there are two quotes about learning that I love the most, its

Being ignorant is not so much of a shame as being unwilling to learn
_BENJAMIN FRANKLIN

And

Do not think that the knowledge you presently possess is changeless, absolute truth. Avoid being narrow-minded and bound to present views. Learn and practice non-attachment from views in other to be open to receive others’ viewpoints. Truth is found in life and not merely in conceptual knowledge. Be ready to learn throughout your entire life and to observe reality in yourself and in the world at all times.
_THICH NHAT HANH

Sometime ago, my mom barged into my room without knocking, (She never knocks, whenever I complain about my privacy, she tells me to go find my own house then I can rant about privacy violation) I was wearing my earpiece as usual and was so focused on my PC that I didn't notice her.

She was finally so happy that she caught me red handed. She tipped toed from behind and flipped my laptop to see what I was watching.
Lo and behold I have been watching tutorials about Elliot impulse wave graph. Instead of asking me to explain what I am doing, she grabbed the can of baby oil that was on the cupboard beside my bed,
What were you watching before I came in and what is this doing close to your bed? she asked.
Oh! The baby oil? As you can see I am using it to masturbate as I am watching this porn I replied

She was still looking at me in full shock

I would have told you that I mistakenly broke my curl activator container and I just poured it into the empty baby oil container, but you have already made up your mind about what I was doing before asking me. To skip the future arguments, I just told you what you wanted to hear, you happy now? I asked.

She took a closer look at the oil and noticed it is thicker than baby oil, then giggled and tossed it to me and left with her tail between her legs.

I began to wonder, I have been living with you guys for years and I have never walked into you guys having sex. If I am really a masturbator, does she think she will ever catch me?

On the other hand, I don’t really blame my parents for what they are putting me through. I guess my dad is just passing over what he learnt from his dad (my grandpa) over to me.

I can remember him once telling me a story about how lucky I am, to be born in the generation. He said that when he was 16years and was done with elementary school, his dad sent him out of the home. Not because my grandpa couldn't train him anymore but for him to learn how to survive on his own. He said my grandpa told him about how his dad (My great grandpa) died when he (my grandpa) was very young and he had to make it on his own. So my grandpa prepared my dad for the future, the same way he was prepared... The hard way

It's now my turn to learn the hard way too but thank God for a little civilization. That I can't blame him doesn't change the fact that it's really frustrating, I just don’t know how to explain to my parents that I am not wasting my time.

Sometimes my dad purposly sends me on stupid errands, just to distract me from my laptop. One of these days he may tell me to go outside and wash the whole trees just to keep me busy.

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How do I make him see that what I am doing now may not pay off anytime soon but will surely off in the future? It's just a matter of time.

If you are good at parenting, can you give me tips on how to explain to them that the world is no longer a place where the strongest manual workest earn the highest income?

How can I explain to them that someone leaving the house every morning and coming back in the evening doesn't mean he/she is earning money? Some people staying at home all day are way better than them.

How can I get them to see that I am really building myself for the future?