Thoughts on failure

Keep in with a habit implies struggle and sometimes failure and that is just normal. There is no person in the world who has not fail at doing something it is how humans learn. If you watch a baby doing his first steps you will see him falling constantly until there is a moment when he starts to relate all his previous experiences and put them all together to serve his purpose of not falling, learning from previous failures is normal, what really is not normal is not learning from failures and mistakes.

What to do when you fail? How to do you get over the feeling of constant failing?

I know this sounds easier to say than doing it, but start by forgiving yourself, be kind with you and step back to have a better picture of the situation. Once you get into the moment when you are able to be analytical about something that went wrong you can start learning how to reduce the chances of failing or making same mistake. Hopefully your determination to improve and not fail again will be stronger than your mind telling you that you will always fail. People can forgive you easier that you can do to yourself, learn to be kind to yourself and the process will get easier.

What things help to avoid failing

Sometimes we take the same route, routine or things that trigger failure. Lets think that someone wants to quit smoking, how about the morning coffee and the first cigarette, how do you avoid that trigger? In my personal opinion, I could not skip my coffee and I still love it and finally got over the idea of the morning cigarette but when I was in the process I had to brush my teeth after the morning coffee right away to trick my mind and say that it was gone, not coffee taste no need for that morning cigarette. It was not an easy process and I fail couple months after completely quitting, and then I was judging myself so hard for failing until I realize how far I had gone and how easy it was to fail again, sometimes you are too hard on you but failing is part of winning you need to go through that and get better, there will be a time when you can easily manage those situations without too much problem and then you will realized you are not having that problem anymore.

How much failure is too much?

Sometimes you really desire to change a bad habit or maybe stop quitting a good habit on the building process. You might ask for how long should I keep on failing or quitting? And my answer is until you do not feel bad about it and usually that feeling just increases each time you fail or quit but eventually when you can handle it you won't even think about it, so you were successful at building the new habit or quitting the bad one, or you really did not wanted it so bad, so it will be a good idea to either stop trying or reduce your expectations, for example, reduce the amount of cigarettes per day. Remember there is always a new day to start over and failing does not mean wasting your time or efforts, it is just an indicator to learn something from it and try again later.

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