Differences between true and toxic love

in #toxic6 years ago

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There are several obvious differences between true love and one that makes us feel bad, but we do not know why exactly.

It is sometimes difficult to give a precise definition of why certain things happen - why do not we understand why we are not feeling well and calm with the person next to us.

There are five specific differences between true love and toxic, and when you read them it will not be so difficult for you to see the signs that have been before your eyes for so long.

In true love, to love yourself and to try to improve yourself is always a top priority. Your partner should be the one who wants to be your best version and have the best opportunities to achieve more in personal and professional terms. The same goes for you to him.

You should want the best for each other more than anything.

In toxic love, absolutely the whole focus is on the relationship itself and how it affects both of you and how it determines you. There is no place for personal realization or building because you two can not just get out of the chain of permanent conversations for you and your relationship. This is a very negative outlook and definitely puts an end to personal growth.

In true love, it is perfectly normal to have different interests, hobbies, and things that make you excited. There is nothing wrong with having friends who are just yours or doing things that are just yours from time to time. There is no fear that you have not spent enough time with your partner or that you are doing something outside the relationship.

In toxic love, neither of them can have a life that excludes the other. Everything has to be done together, or otherwise come to the agenda of jealousy and suppuration. On each side, this is a very unhealthy dependence that will lead to the distraction and loss of a lot of friendships.

In true love, it is not difficult to love your partner with all his shortcomings and little strangeness. They are unique in a nice and sometimes not so beautiful way, but you have to love it as it is.

In your toxic love or your partner, in every way, they are manipulated to change something in the other according to their standards for right and wrong. To become one who is easy to love. And either of you will break from all these criticisms and change into "the name of love."

In true love, intimacy is the deep and connecting thread that is "cultivated" with time between the two and brings great sensations. It is a mixture of true friendship and trust and sexual desire at all levels.

In toxic love, sex is something that brings fear, worry and shame. If you're trying to be the perfect fancy of your half, and that does not give you pleasure, then we talk about you. In these cases, one feels tense and definitely uncertain about his body or behavior.

In true love, all conversations aim to achieve the right result. Even discussions about something that is not particularly enjoyable are with love and understanding. And most importantly, with the thought of the other, however difficult it is.

In toxic love, conversations often go into disputes or indictments. Many conversations that look positive and loving are actually manipulative ways to make you do something the other wants or give them something. The cry is quite common in these relationships.

Do you think there are still such differences and differences between true and toxic love?


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