DON'T GET MAD AT YOURSELF

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I never truly understood depression and how bad it hits people until I recently stumbled on the recent news making rounds over social media about people who have committed suicide as a result of being depressed.

Just yesterday, a woman parked a Ford jeep at 3rd mainland bridge in Lagos, Nigeria and jumped into the lagoon.

Anthony Bourdain committed suicide and the cause is yet to be verified.

A gospel artist here in Delta state, Nigeria stabbed himself to death for reasons yet to be unfolded.

Money will answer to so many things but love will answer to ALL things. Everyone in life will pass through a difficult moment and a trial season, taking the life you didn't give yourself is a sin against yourself.

Why forget your first love. You are your first love. Overthinking over something you have little or no control over can sentence you to a point of no return. You are your first love and you speak to yourself. We drift from understanding that no one will ever love us like we love ourselves. Everytime you sought to be loved by people, there is the tendency you are looking out for a next major disappointment. People love you when you are of value to them.

I kept thinking few days back about how bad it is getting, with the increasing rate of depression cases. I discovered that africa seem to be a little at advantage compared to other developed countries.

My reason: You will most likely find at least one person, who is not minding his/her business enough, that when he/she doesn't see you in a day or two, begins to ask questions and maybe come knock at your door to know if everything is alright. In developed countries where it is everybody for his/her business, you will be long gone before anyone even remember you existed. Needless to say one should put him/herself in such a delicate position for people cares rather than self care.

What could be the cause?

So, you failed in a business, at work, in school, and you already see yourself as a failure in life. I have been there and what I discovered is that thinking too much about how you failed and why it happened slows your progress level down by almost a year. Your brain should evolve with the current things happening. Everytime you stay too long in your past, you drag your life too soon when you should be cruising at a very high speed.

I discovered recently that people who eventually take crazy actions about their current state of event are people we have perceived most times to be strong and have their games in check. They seem to us like they are not going through anything but meanwhile have a lot running through their minds.

The same guy you think is the strongest can be the weakest in the face of a predicament. What makes us strong varies and how we respond to life challenges is absolutely personal. Templates to how we respond or react to events varies just as having different names. Don't assume I am strong because you came out stronger when you faced the same.

When you feel overburdened by something you can't change or control, I have an advice for you:

Don't keep it to yourself, don't get mad at you. Life happens and we must move on.

I give kudos to comedians who consistently make people laugh in the midst of hardship. My County is in the midst of a transition season and if you have been here long enough, you will know that transitions don't come easy. It takes time and can wear you out if not handled properly. Go on Instagram, you will find succor for whatever you are going through by having someone make you laugh.

Don't get mad at yourself. There are many more persons going through the same or even worse challenges than you.

The true test of a general, is not how many battles fought but how many victories recorded.

You are a general and cannot afford to die in battle. You crown is just here.

Stay focused.

Talk to someone if you need help

I hope my thoughts here was helpful.