The Four Implications of Over-Familiarity

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Hello guys, it's @maduprecious and am back again with an interesting interactive topic. What do you think about familiarity? Do you feel it always positive to be familiar with someone? Is familiarity an extreme case? Well, familiarity in my aspect deals with how your relationship with people is. We know to be familiar with someone is very good, you tend to know the person likes and dislikes. You know the direction to take while approaching or following up an issue with them. But my topic wants to point out the disadvantages of familiarity. Sit back and read

Familiarity implications affects you more than the other party. When you become familiar with some one the problems that might get involved are.;

  • No regards of boundaries:yeah! This is self explanatory I guess. Before becoming familiar with someone, know your boundaries first of all and also know the other party boundaries, so that trespass won't be indicated. Most people forget your boundaries due to familiarity, they tend to insult, take your things without permission and consistently expect a certain behaviour from you. That's a disadvantage, because courtesy at this point is not emphasised. Boundaries are your pride.

A man who doesn't have boundaries is insecure and will be vulnerable to attack all the time.

These boundaries might be your "#NO" values, thus, if you can't say No to somethings, your life would be disrespected especially with familiarity.

  • Advices will be under-rated-when you know someone too well, you need to be careful. First of all, separate the personality, quality and reasonablity of that person from the aspect of friendship. In other words, have it at the back of your mind that this so-called person has the ability to do something that you are assured that will help you. When friends who get drunk together begin to advice you, the non-alcholic type, you tend not to give ears, why? Because you see them get drunk, your closeness is disrupting the fact that they have the potentials to advice you or their advices might absolutely be right but it's becomes under-rated because you know them and their weaknesses.

  • It doesn't appreciate weaknesses:When you become extremely familiar with someone, there is every probability that the person won't take note of your weaknesses. It's doesn't happen intentionally, it's becomes normal. This does not mean they are bad people, they may even be your best buddies.

  • Lack of respect especially in decisions- Have you ever warned your roommate not to do a certain thing that will affect you but he/she does it? or even your siblings? It's familiarity. Most times you make strict decisions or information to people you are soo familiar with but they still won't adhere to your cock and bull stories because they know your in and out. Thus, disrespect of your decisions and actions would be prone.
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    In conclusion, the aspect of boundaries should not be under emphasised. Know what one can't trespass with regards to your principles irrespective of how familiar you are with the person and also know the principles of the other party in order not to also trespass.

Notwithstanding, that should not limit your social interactions instead it should protect and guide it.
For example, most of my friends might read this and see nothing significant in what I suggested not because the content is not valuable but because they are seeing me as they skim through, that's familiarity I guess.
Most times we don't even know the difference between someone who is a friend and a mentor. Know how to differenciate and separate the two quality, so that you can utilize it for your benefit.

Thanks guys, it's @maduprecious. Much love

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Familiarity is something that distrupt relationships sometimes. Especially when you know a person's weakness or past mistakes, makes you arrogant and irresponsible. A man who smokes advising you not to, that it's addictive and bad. You'll feel like isn't that where you derive your joy. Common tell me something else.
You have done well on this sensitive topic.

Thanks alot dear

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