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Resilience
It’s a known fact that perseverance often eventually leads to success. At some point, we achieve, we conquer, we reap the rewards of being persistent. Great inventions have been born through perseverance; Thomas Edison went through thousands of prototypes before he perfected the electric bulb.
There’s something that’s quite similar to perseverance or let’s just say is sometimes confused with perseverance: it’s called resilience. It goes hand in hand with perseverance. I will shed some light on it.
Resilience is the key to success in anything. No matter who you are or what you’re doing, at some point, you’re likely to fall down. And, if you can’t get back up, you’re not going to get far.
Resilience is about more than simply standing up again, however. To truly demonstrate resilience, you have to stand up with the right attitude. Anyone can get up and still feel down. A resilient person gets up and is ready to go again.
It's not only about being willing to get up again, it’s about being willing to fall again—as many times as it takes.
Why You Need Resilience
How many times in your life have you been knocked down? Maybe you put a lot of time and effort into something and it still didn’t go your way. Or, perhaps you invested your heart and soul into a project and it just didn’t turn out, or you didn’t get the recognition you deserved. Without resilience, these things are wearing. They leave you wondering, “Why did I even try in the first place?” and they leave you doubting that it’s ever going to work out. It might lead you to giving up or wasting time being frustrated or upset.
Without resilience, we don’t fall as much because, when we hit the ground hard, we aren’t motivated to get back up again. Instead, we take the easy way out and tell ourselves it just isn’t working rather than being willing to try again and see what happens. Oftentimes, this results from a fear of failure—a thing that many of us have.
No one wants to fail. It can be embarrassing, humiliating, and extremely frustrating. Failing at something can take your motivation away all together and leave you in a rotten mood. Even if we’re going after something we really want, fear of failure can keep us from trying it again, or from trying to achieve it at all. That’s why we need resilience.
With resilience, we stand up again as many times as it takes. We face up to our fears and we realize that failing is just part of the process. We own up to the fact that we are not perfect and that, as humans, we all must get knocked down as some point so that we can stand up again stronger. Resilience means not only admitting when something doesn’t go your way, but learning from it. It means stepping back, looking at the problem again, and trying something different.
Ultimately, resilience means prosperity. Even if it takes you ten tries to get there, you will stick with it until you accomplish your goal. If you were to break it down, you could say that resilience is positivity, confidence, and stubbornness all rolled into one. You keep control over your emotions, and you’re okay with falling because you know it’s going to teach you a good lesson.
So, how can you become resilient?
There is no one-size-fits-all approach to changing and perfecting your mindset as it depends on your starting point, but there are some key things you can begin doing regularly to start working towards resilience and being happier and more confident overall.
Resilience means being willing to fail
If you refuse to own up to the fact that you might make a mistake or things might not go your way, you’re going to take a much harder fall. By being resilient, you are recognizing that you might fall down. But you’re also recognizing that it’s simply part of the process and, rather than getting upset about it when it happens, you just stand up again and try something else until it works. With resilience, you might fall down nine times, but you’ll stand up ten.
Resilience means adapting
You can’t try to solve your problems with the same mode of thinking that caused them to begin with. If you are going to be resilient, you need to take on a different perspective. When you fall, don’t rush back in and try to do it the same way all over again. Instead, take a step back and look at what went wrong.
Resilience means staying strong
If you give into your emotions, you aren’t demonstrating true resilience. As a resilient person, you don’t get mad, sad, or upset when things don’t go your way. Instead, you focus your energy into figuring out how to make things go right. With this attitude, you’ll save yourself a lot of frustration and you’ll find yourself moving past issues more quickly.
Resilience means facing up
As a resilient person, you might be walking into an unfamiliar situation but you’ll still feel confident knowing that you are going to stick with it until you solve any problems that come your way. As things get harder, resilient people just get tougher. Even if you aren’t sure how to go about something, you’ll stick with it until you figure it out.
Resilience means rewarding yourself
Even with small victories, a resilient person recognizes when they’ve done something right. They reward themselves for these little wins in their life and they are willing to humbly admit their victories. This is why resilience goes hand-in-hand with a strong sense of self and confidence.
Resilience means being a leader
A resilient person searches for meaning in everything they do. They keep their eye on the end goal and stay focused throughout their journey towards it. They develop a “personal why” that will keep them motivated, even when they face tough situations. This allows them to see any setbacks from a broader perspective that doesn’t allow them to be easily overwhelmed.
Authored by @jeffways
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If at first you don't succeed........then you are faced with a choice. In the end, it's all about choice.
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Defining perseverance can make you overcome some difficulty
The flexibility yes you need to persevere
And it can be defined as the one that makes you withstand the difficulties of successive life
Yes, @slimanepro. Thanks for sharing your thoughts.
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Great post - Ive been reading "Antifragility" by Nassim Nicholas Taleb which posits a quality that not only survives stressors, but thrives and grows with disorder. Certain successful companies, artists and inventors have this quality. We all have it to some degree, even just in the way we build muscle - we actually come out stronger than before the stressor was applied. Similarly there are those who do not suffer Post Traumatic Stress, but they actually find their truth or passion in trauma. These people are Antifragile. Fascinating concept.
I have to read "Antifragile" and learn more about this concept by Taleb. From what I understand, it's quite similar to resilience. Thanks for reading @benleemusic.
Resilience at the heart of individual :)
Its a little different. That which is resilient maintains its original energy/life force. That which is anti fragile has its energy ENHANCED through trauma/disorder.
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One of the critical issues with resilience is that it perpetuates the idea of people in workplaces needing to be more than they are and denying that human beings are actually also frequently vulnerable and fragile. In accepting vulnerability we can accept that we might be wrong, show humility and be open to new points of view. Resilience is a concept that also excludes people who are suffering poor mental health and denies that mental health might be impacted by the type of work people do (for example social workers dealing with difficult cases of child sexual abuse). To tell them they need to be more resilient denies the responsibility employers have for supporting their staff through effective resource, supervision, training etc.
There will be many cases where people work hard to become resilient and they are not getting any more prosperous (similar to people believing in the law of attraction, but getting no reward and then having to believe that they are just trying hard enough to attract these things into their lives.
Resilience as a concept in management and organisational psychology requires a critical perspective to counteract the blind acceptance of what often ends up being little more than pseudoscientific waffle and being flogged for 1000s of dollars to organisations as the latest management psychology fad
Thank you for this. There is a lot to be said for resilience! But it's not so easy as telling someone to just be more resilient; they have to be given methods of coping with troubles that suit the situation they're in for it to really take hold and help in the long run, and there's a danger like you said of other people just expecting too much.
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Great article @adsactly. This topic is so important because it enables us to develop mechanisms for protection against experiences which could be overwhelming, it helps us to maintain balance in our lives during difficult or stressful periods of time.
To add to the part you talked about how one can become more resilient, I personally have found that cultivating compassion helps. When I understand that other people are flesh and blood human beings with needs and desires just as valid as mine, I stop seeing them as things in my way or impediments to what I want, and I start thinking more in terms that we're all trying to navigate tricky paths through different and sometimes conflicting needs and we don't have to be dicks about it. The realization that other people have the right to want different things from what I want, and have the right to say no to me, causes me to be more grateful for the times when they say yes. Gratitude is an awesome antidote to entitlement. Entitlement breeds inflexibility and selfishness. Gratitude and compassion breed flexibility and resilience.
At least in my experience.
Great post really. We need this because even as a minnow, i know how many times i was almost down, but i wasnt.
@georgechuks, cultivating compassion definitely helps. When people fail, suffer, are in their darkest moments, showing concern and having a desire to help will contribute to their ability to bounce back more quickly.
An attitude of gratitude is always the right attitude. We focus more on the things we have and less on the things we don't have, won't get--a postive attitude. No doubt, people who are grateful (and flexible) would be more resilient. Thank you for your contribution.
Sure your mindset matters especially when you fail, but the truth is that the problem is not what you did wrong but it's what you aren't doing right, diligence and persistence plays a greater role in becoming what you want.
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There are few things that test our resilience more than the death of a loved one. Grief can be isolating and grueling and feel insurmountable. But it’s also true that there is nothing that can teach us more about life than death. And when we allow ourselves to receive the lessons that death can teach us, we’ll be more resilient to deal with whatever challenges life brings us. As Sheryl Sandberg puts it in Option B, “I now know that it is possible to experience post-traumatic growth,” she writes. “In the wake of the most crushing blows, people can find greater strength and deeper meaning. I also believe that it is possible to experience pre-traumatic growth — that you don’t have to experience tragedy to build your resilience for whatever lies ahead.”
I have saved this comment for like six months ago after I lost my best friend. You can read the entire post here: https://journal.thriveglobal.com/nothing-teaches-us-more-about-life-than-death-41f6893bfb1b
I just read the post. It was touching how her mom passed.
People often drown in grief after losing a loved one, and it often takes long before they eventually push their heads above the water--bounce back--become resilient. Grief is inevitable because there will always be death. But what's most important is how we handle it.
Sorry about the loss of your best friend, @adisrivastav, and thanks for contributing.
Indeed, it seems that many companies that have succeeded in achieving success today have stepped forward with the flexibility feature. In fact, these companies are flexible and aggressive in turbulent markets, giving them an advantage over their competitors.
Emirates Airline is also a company that has not made significant progress due to its flexible structure. After the September 11 terrorist attack, Emirates Airline succeeded in taking a strategic decision to take new aircraft with a quick decision, while demand for air transport was cut like a knife. The Airbus company began producing the A380 model some time ago on September 11th. He could not figure out how to fill his order book to cover development costs. The company's two-story aircraft could carry a much larger number of passengers and provided significant increases in both range and fuel efficiency. Still, many companies were hesitant to invest in new aircraft in such a market. At the same time, Emirates became the largest customer of the A380 by ordering 15 airplanes to Airbus.
While other airlines could not decide whether or not to take advantage of the discounted price of this new car, Emirates succeeded in providing a great advantage over its competitors with its fast and flexible structure that can fit in every run.
This story has been an example of my life. Sometimes you have to be flexible when making decisions. He showed me that you would take me 2-3 steps ahead.
Thanks for reading, @darksea.
You're welcome. I thank you. for helping me remember this story. and for this beautiful writing @jeffways
This is really a useful and motivating post about one of the most important human qualities in achieving the goals - Fortitude
This word has many synonyms, but we must understand that the meaning of this does not change.
As I believe, Perseverance is persistence, thanks to which the greatest achievements were accomplished. Many people looking at great people and their success or invention believe that this is easy or this is luck. But this is not so. Success comes only after a huge series of failures and a fall. Falls after which you must rise every time and make a new attempt. Do this until you achieve your goal.
As Sylvester Stallone said in one good movie: "Life beats everyone, so it's not just how you respond in return - it's important how you hold a blow and after every blow you have to climb and continue to work is success"
In my opinion, many people lack a little bit of perseverance and zeal in order to achieve their goal and be happy.
The main thing is to understand - the more effort you have in the goal - the more its price, and hence the final reward.
Thanks for the chic article, it should be read by everyone
Hello @frank1in. Yes. Success sometimes comes after failing/falling a few times; persistence often eventually leads to success. So definitely someone who puts in more effort into achieving a goal would likely achieve it faster or get more rewards. With resilience, the person bounces back when it seems like the goal isn't achievable. I like what Sylvester Stallone said in the movie. Thanks.
Thanks! It's my first reply here. I'm in that boat, paddling slowly upstream again. Retrenchment in the modern world shortly to be powered by machines or ourselves. I like the analogy with perseverance. From an ecological perspective resilience is a key word in development of vegetation and a trait against total destruction like fire. Fire-prone ecosystems are resilient to fire as having adapted to it by resurgence with resprouting shoots or using the opportunity to set seed and begin successional colonization of the habitat again. You've given me a great idea to write something similar - and also place my input and insights into succession following natural disturbances.
Thanks
Benjamin
Thanks Benjamin for your thoughts on this.
I look forward to the post.