THINGS THAT CAUSE REGRET AT OLD AGE.[#Today's Wisdom]
young people make various choices without the future in mind which they later regret at old age. At old age, they will wish they could go back and make corrections but then it will be too late. Don't be a victim of circumstances, don't live your old age regretting what you did when you were young.
These are some of the things one might regret at old age.
- Marrying the wrong person
At a young age before marriage, check your motives for marrying. Don't marry to copy your peers, or for social standing or out of pressure. Marry for love and companionship, marry the right person. For if you marry the wrong person or for the wrong reasons, you will have to put up with that person the rest of your life. Things might get worse between you two; depression, physical abuse, affairs, pains, shame, court cases, bitterness will define your mid-life years all because you chose the wrong one. Things will get worse when children are involved. Make the right choice of a spouse when you are young to avoid regrets at old age.
- The opportunities you did not seize
At a younger age many doors will open, you will get many opportunities. Many young people let these opportunities go because of fear, laziness, or pride; yet well younger and with more energy is the best time to start a venture and a name for yourself. Some think the opportunities are too big for them but One day when you're older you will want to go back and grab those missed opportunities but it will be too late.
The bridges you burned
When we are younger, you care less for relationships, what most think about is getting money and moving up the ladder of success at all cost. Many use and trample on people to progress, they take relationships for granted, messing up bonds, defrauding and sleeping with people for personal gain. But these bad actions will catch up with you ahead. When you are old.. you will realize how empty life is without love and friends, you will have success but nobody loves or trust you. You will then realize that "a Good name is worth more than silver and gold"The child you aborted
Ladies, At a young age you get pregnant and you are scared. You take the aborting option quickly thinking of that moment then. But when you are much older, you will look back and wish you kept that baby. When you will be rich and successful you will wish that child you aborted was around to enjoy the fruits of your hard work. Being a single mother doesn't mean you can't make it in life or you can't find a man in future.The child you rejected
Guys, at a young age you impregnated a lady, she told you she's pregnant with your child. You rejected her and the baby and ran. But years later when you're around 50 yrs, you will wish you were responsible, you will wish you manned up and became a father to that child. You will see that child excel and become an adult but will have no claim to that grown child who you rejected from the beginning. You will regret being a Dead Beat Dad by choice.
- The marriage you destroyed
At a young age you get married to your good fiance; the first months in marriage were good but shortly after, when ur money have grown, you started having affairs. You became unfaithful. Your spouse begged you to stop, your children started hurting but you didn't care, finally your marriage collapse. One day when you are older and alone, it will hit you how foolish you were to destroy the good marriage you had began to build for mere temporary pleasure in affairs that did you no good. You will realize the damage you caused to your children and spouse but it will be to late.
- The God you disowned
At a young age you live life the way you want ignoring God. When you are much older you become wiser, God becomes more real as you see life in a more meaningful way. But don't wait to get older to start enjoying a relationship with God. Know God when you are young, build your future with God. Don't be a young rebel who runs back to God when age catches up.
- The body you messed
You have only one body to live with all your life. The cigarettes, the alcohol you are abusing, the drugs you are taking, the unhealthy food you're consuming, all the secret affairs and unprotected sex you had; All will destroy you slowly. When you are older and Lifestyle diseases, sexual transmitted diseases catch up with you and u start living on drugs. You will wish you took care of your body, u will wish u were faithful to your body but then the damage has been done.
- The time you wasted
At young age, the time you wasted in clubbing, bear parlors, fake relationships, laziness, womanizing and pursuing meaningless things; you will never get it back. When you get older you will wish you were more resourceful and made better use of your money and time.
- The dreams and talents you shelved
At a young age you were talented; you have something you love to do and you are good at it? Nurture those talents, exploit them, don't give up even if you encounter set backs, don't give up on your dreams. If you give up, when you're older you will look at your peers who stuck to what they love and made it and think to self, "That could have been me". Pursue a career, study a course you love. Don't waste years of your life in a field that doesn't fulfill you.
11 The name you defamed
When you are older, a legacy is very important, the value of your name is crucial. You will ask yourself what is your reputation, what are you leaving behind? Your legacy is a sum total of your actions and accomplishments since youthful days. We write our biography by how we live life everyday. When you look back your path and you see the mud you threw at your own name, the shame you attracted and the little or no value you added to the world; you will definitely regret.
- The wealth you threw away
At a young age you riding on good money, Earning good money. Don't throw away that money in Clubs, reckless living, womanizing and wasteful shopping. Invest with that money, widen your revenue stream, make that money work for you and keep it safe to take care of you in your older years. Leave an inheritance for your loved ones so that you will never say "I wish I knew better" at old age.
- The good love that got away
Is there that great person in your life loving you so much? Don't push that person away, don't cheat or despise their love because one day that person will walk out of your life and you will never ever find someone that incredible and who connects with you all your life. It will torment you to grow old with thoughts of "What if I was still with him/her, what if I gave him/her a chance?"
14 The parents you despised
At a young age it is easy to show contempt and displeasure towards your parents maybe because they purnish and advice you when you did something wrong but you feel; what do your parent's know? They are old-fashioned and small-minded forgetting that your parents have lived longer than you, they have experienced life more. whether you agree with them or not, whatever it is, don't let your parent die or age separated from you, reconcile and make up. When you get older and life has taught you so many lessons because you didn't listen to your parents, then it will be too late to say "had i known I would have listened".
It's not too late, You can still make that positive change today to avoid future regrets.
Thank you and God bless you.
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