接受自己身体痛苦和情绪痛苦的存在

痛苦是因为对真相的对抗。首先是意志较量，我希望世界按照我的想法运转，而当世界没有这样运转时，会有情绪上的痛苦，进而转变成身体痛苦，痛苦之身由此形成。而它形成的源头，正是我们对自己想法的自恋。越是自恋，越是对自己的想法，特别是对关于别人该如何的想法执着，越容易导致巨大的痛苦，甚至是疯狂。

痛苦之身形成，有一个恶性循环。我们更不接受自己的情绪痛苦和身体痛苦，和这些痛苦对抗，由此构建了无比复杂的心理防御机制，结果成了一个迷宫，而我们的痛苦之身也成了一个非常复杂的存在。

清楚了这个问题的产生过程，化解的方法就是反着来。首先，知道自己的想法系统就像一个保护层，它们不是真理；其次，接受自己身体痛苦和情绪痛苦的存在，深入到伤痛层中，好好去感受它们，不对抗，让其自由流动；最后，放下自己的想法，又穿越痛苦之身后，也许就能进入到所谓的真我中。

The pain is because of the confrontation of the truth. First of all is the will contest. If I want the world to run according to my idea, but the truth is not.There will be emotional pain and then turn into physical pain. And the source of its formation is the narcissism of us. The more you think about yourself, especially the idea of how others should be, the more pains you get.

The body of pain is formed, and there is a vicious circle. We don't even accept our emotional pain and physical pain, and fight against these pains, so we build a very complex psychological defense mechanism, which turns out to be a labyrinth, and our pain body has also become a very complex existence.

It is clear that the process of this problem.
The way to resolve it is to reverse it. First of all, we should understand these ideas like system a protective layer, they are not true. Secondly，to accept our own physical and emotional pain ，let them flow freely.
Finally, to lay down our ideas, and through the pain of death, may be able to enter the so-called self.

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多年前初中的暑假，来到父母工作的大城市，一家人吃完饭老妈去上班，老爸也在收拾东西准备上班去了，洗碗的事情当然是由我处理了，可是老爸说把这个洗了那个洗了垃圾倒了……这些都是本份的事情，不知道为什么，那时候真就有一股很痛苦的感觉让自己浑身难受，我也没有对抗就乖乖洗碗，接受它让它流动，现在来看或许冥想安静一下就能解决，当时莫名的难受让人记忆犹新。

作为一个应届毕业生，不考研不出国深造的我只有面临就业，心底的很多想法状态也和大多数毕业生一样，充满对未来的迷茫和担忧也有小小憧憬。

当迷茫的时候内心是挺难受的，为什么难受呢？可能是苦恼当下的自己支撑不了以前自己所认为的样子，也是自恋受到了打击
当自己静下心来思考这几年的经历和一些小成就，我又不会再感觉到痛苦，更相信到人生是有希望的。

Many years ago, during the summer vacation of junior high school. I came to a big city where my parents worked. My parents went to work after lunch. My father was packing up things to go to work. Of course, I washed the dishes, but my father diracted me to wash lots of stuffs. These are all good things, but I do not know why, at that time I have a very painful feeling let myself feeling uncomfortable, I don't against direction just accept it.Let it flow, now perhaps the quiet meditation can be solved, then let me unforgettable.

As a graduating student, I am only confronted with employment. Many of my mind is also like most graduates. It is full of confusion and worry about our future.

When I was confused, the heart is very uncomfortable, why ? It may be an affliction that their narcissism was hit by reality.
When I am quiet and think about the experiences of these years and some small achievements, I will not feel any pain again, but I believe that life is hopeful.