Some Things Require Common Sense, Contributed By @olawalium.
A lot of times, we always try to find logic behind everything when only a common sense would do. I always tell people, most of the things we see in relationships that we now frown at much later have always been there but we only choose to close our eyes to it. The warning signs are always there but we are mostly blinded by the rush of adrenaline, we need to think more with our head and not always with our heart. Ability to balance the two is vital.
As you know I like being practical and also I enjoy sharing practical stories, and not just something I think off in my head. I recently read about the story of a lady who felt she is always attracting the wrong guys. She is well to do I guess and the guys she always attracts enjoy asking her for money maximum two weeks into the relationship. I see several reasons to this predicament.
I think she is suffering from the fact that she doesn’t love herself enough and this makes her always want to jump into any relationship as fast as she can. Maybe she feels age is no longer on her side or she feels she needs a man to feel complete, which still boils down on the fact that she doesn’t love herself as she should. In life, more so in a relationship, we always accept the love we think we deserve. If we think we deserve more, we won’t sell ourselves short and we won’t even give discount. It is all about how you carry yourself.
When you love yourself enough, you will carry yourself as such. It is not pride, but it narrows down the kind of people that will want to approach you. The moment you see every guy you come across as a potential husband, they will exploit you. Men are adventurous and smart. Even if they were not thinking of dating you and you show them a little opening that you want them, some of them would want to exploit you, obviously. Don’t ever feel a man should complete you. You are already complete, you just need a partner who will drive you to greater heights and be there for you.
…to be continued…
Thank you for your time.
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How you easily get into skin of any topic @olawalium common sense is a simple topiv but still you managed to pull out 8 series of post..just gone through the first one...still others to go...early morning and good to read some insight into life character.
I read somewhere..."make yourself capable enough, everyone starts loving you" it is not necessary that you only made to love others. Make your presence strong enoug that others starts to love and like your presence that they scare of losing you rather than you falling apart to everyone....better not to be easy prey by showing falling apart on each that came across
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Wooooow! It gets better. Thank you so much my friend. I am really glad you enjoyed this, really.
I always look forward to your contributions because they are always enlightening.
Yes, we need to increase our value and be too relevant to be ignored. I agree with this:
*"Make your presence strong enoug that others starts to love and like your presence that they scare of losing you rather than you falling apart to everyone".
So much wisdom in there.
Haha thanks @olawalium just was bit fresh early morning to churn out some of these things. You know such story you will find everywhere even in India you will get to hesr the story. Even a married women whose husband could not take out time for her falls in other men arms...so i have been coming around all such scenarios which help me adding my input to iy
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Wow. I love real life practical stories and this is just one of it. I am glad you picked out the lessons and helped me to also learn from this. Thank you so much, really appreciate this.
That is the good part of your content. People learn from real experiences only....even if you fake it people will agree with it
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Real life experiences make people relate with things better and this is why i try to always share practical things. We all live and learn as we grow and go in life. The lesson might not be for us, but we can find someone around us that is going through such, that we can encourage with it later on.
Thanks, my friend.
I think the value can be said as self respect....the more we maintain it the better it is to let any one disrespect.
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Yes, having value can be related to having self-respect and when you have that, people around would want to live up to it.
The lady should not open her for everyone.he should choose the partner carefully.i agree with you that she is already complete.she just need a partner who could take her to great heights.
Have a good day @olawalium and @communitycoin
Yes, my friend. Part of having self-love is to know we are already complete. A lot of people think they need another person to be complete. Only a purposeless person would think that way. We only need our partner to push us to be all that we are, that we didn't know yet.
Love is a great thing in life
It is beautiful when a man sacrifices for what he loves
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