Heyyy Steemians, do you know almost 90% of success in our lives is directly related to the skills in communicating and establishing relationships with others?

Hello Steemians.....
Who does not know the word "communication"? An activity that every day we do either at home, work, school or anywhere. Of course this is not just an ordinary activity, because communication is important and cannot be avoided in life.

Therefore, there is no doubt that this communication has been named as one of the most important aspects of the many keys to success in life. This statement is also reinforced by the results of surveys that show that almost 90% of success in our lives is directly related to the skills in communicating and establishing relationships with others.

Of course to achieve success in life we ​​need to have effective and excellent communication skills. Because with this effective communication skills others can directly judge us and it is easy for us to get the trust of the other person. You may have experienced this "ah it's better to chat with A than with the B. The A is fun." I think you must have felt it. What if you are in position B? hmm, surely you only have a few friends compared to A.

Small things like that someone is reluctant to talk with other people. This skill in effective communication is indeed very influential in life. The better communication skills, the more people feel comfortable and happy to talk with us. Is it fun not to have many friends? it's all thanks to the effective communication that you created.

For this reason, in this article we will learn what needs to be improved and avoided to improve communication skills especially effective communication. Ready? Here we go!

In communication one must expect a goal and a result. Correct? The bad news is that the goal will not be achieved if the communication does not go well and is not effective. To overcome this, there are several things that must be developed in order to create an effective communication.

Things that need to be considered to build effective communication are:

• Be a good listener. By listening to the other person first, it will make him feel respected and listened so that he feels happy and will again listen to us well. Let them say their problem. In effective communication, it takes patience not to rush to complete a conversation. In addition, if we listen well first without cutting the conversation, we will get more and better information.

• Besides, say the words clearly. This is very important in effective communication rules. Clearly the pronunciation of words and the use of choice of words or vocabulary, making the other person can judge us well. You must be a little uncomfortable if you talk to someone who is bad at the pronunciation of his words.

• In addition, in effective communication it is necessary to pay attention to speech intonations such as speed, volume and tone of voice.

Speed: Set the tempo or speed of speech. If we talk with tempo too fast, the other person will be difficult to follow and if too late he will feel bored or even impatient. In effective communication it would be good to vary the speed of speech.

Volume: Even though you need to adjust the level of violence of your voice. You may feel offended when your interlocutor speaks loudly to you. Because you feel you are deaf. And if it's too weak it's also hard for him to listen to what we say.

Tone: Talking tone also has a big effect on communication. The wrong tone can cause misinterpretation. A high tone indicates a person who is angry, a low tone can be interpreted as shy or timid. Adjust the tone and vary the tone proportionally. Emotional control when talking because emotions affect intonation. Intonation can help emphasize important content.

• Use Non-Verbal language. In this case, let your body also speak or communicate and clarify what you are talking about. Let your facial expression express and describe your emotions at that time. People pay more attention to how we convey information through body language, compared to just saying our words. Given that body language plays a major role in the process of interaction and communication, we must display body language in accordance with the content of communication, so that no miscommunication occurs. Of course it's a bit strange to see the other person we are talking to with just a flat face ... hehehehe.

• Focusing on other effective communication is paying attention to the style of language. Everyone certainly has a different style of language. It all depends on the person's personality, gender and age. In this aspect we need to pay attention to whom we speak. If we talk with peers clearly it is not necessary to use formal and rigid language. It will actually make our friends amused ... hehehehehe. And conversely if we talk to older people we must speak politely and formally. Avoid the impression of patronizing and also avoid convoluted, boring, etc.

These are the basic things we need to pay attention to in communicating. After this you have to practice it for each person you are talking to.

However, in addition to the things that must be developed there are also things that we must avoid to create effective communication.

Well, what are those things? Let's discuss!

× Interrupt.

What is your feeling if you are talking but your conversation is interrupted? I am sure you will feel annoyed and feel unappreciated. Therefore, it is very clear that interrupting is a hard violation in the communication ethics and will lead to a conflict.

× Compare stories.

What do you mean comparing stories? Maybe you have told someone about an event that you have experienced. But after you tell me, your interlocutor compares your story to the story like "ahh I have been like that, I'm just worse." More or less like that ... hehehehehe.

What are your feelings when you hear him say that? If you are annoyed, don't ever do this to others. This actually makes other people amused to you.

× Argumentative.

This type of person always expresses opinions that are contrary to our opinions. whatever we say is always wrong in his eyes and expresses his opinion which he considers right.

× Avoid gossip.

Nahh ... this is more specifically for women, it's normal not to feel bad if it's not for gossip ... hehehehehe. Maybe gossip is an interesting conversation if both parties like gossip. But it's different if you start gossip with the intellect, people like this don't like gossip.

Remember, vilifying others is the same as humbling yourself. So avoid gossip or discredit others.

Nahh .. now you already know what needs to be considered and avoided in building an effective and good communication. Begin to introspect yourself what needs to be developed and noticed when you are talking.

Remember, it has been mentioned above that almost 90% of our success is directly related to the way we communicate. Although we look low profile, but if we show an attitude in communication that is very good, people will certainly judge us as people who can be trusted and have high intelligence.

The most important thing in communication is that we must be able to keep our words. do not let out words that can offend others and will have a negative impact on ourselves and our relationship to that person.