Take Your Time. Contributed by @Olawalium
There are certain decisions in life that require being patient. There are certain decisions you can’t just rush because they determine the course of our lives. There are certain decisions that make or mar us, and with those decisions, we need to take our time and not rush it.
We often rush certain decisions due to pressure and frustration. We often feel the need to change people’s view of us, so we want to make sure we are viewed differently. We enter that frame of mind and most people are living in regret because of certain decisions they should have exercised control over, or given time to manifest. We are often disturbed about how people see us, view us or what they think of us, so we hastily make some decisions which we shouldn’t.
Don’t ever rush marital decisions, which is one of many decisions we often rush. Don’t ever make a short-term decision over the long term. Take your time, you owe yourself that much.
I was speaking with a friend yesterday and I sincerely admire his determination never to yield to the pressure from everyone to get a girlfriend quickly. His mind is ready for marriage but he would never be rushed into it. He knows it is a decision he will live with for the long haul. He wants to do it right.
Sometimes some things don’t fall into place so as to teach us patience. Often times we force these things because we would rather want it now and save our face than to think long term.
His mother is ready, family members are ready and he has given them a sense of feeling that, he should be trusted and wouldn’t be rushed and they respect that. Not all families are like that I must admit. Some wouldn’t bulge and pressurize you till you break.
Having a boyfriend is not life’s ultimate achievement, so why lose your sense of worth because you want it now? Take your time with it. You will still have a boyfriend/girlfriend/fiancee. Every good thing takes time. You build over the years together and with all the experiences gathered over the years.
Take your time. Be intentional about who you allow into your space. We often time crave attention and we pick just anyone, even in friendship. The quality of friends you have around you will determine how far you will go and how long you will last. This is also applicable to marital decisions. If you pick a very good and understanding partner, you will be happy and grow through things together, but if you end up with the opposite, well, you should be contented with being a philosopher.
Whatever decision that is peculiar to you, whatever decision you want to make that you know your life depends on, take your time. What’s the point in rushing it? Patience is indeed a virtue. The better you wait, the greater for you, because the waiting game you skipped would be forced upon you later on when that decision turns out bad. From such experiences, it takes only a determined mind not to fold or be broken as a result of it.
Take your time, please. Do what’s best for you, and you.
Thank you for your time.
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Because the finish line is still far ahead, maybe you think you can never reach it. Never occurred to the head: the current situation is actually more comfortable than your previous position.
At least, even if the struggle is not over, you are no longer in the "just beginning" level. All you have to do, maybe, is just enjoy the journey. Imagine yourself in a bus to the finish line, and you can look out the window, watching the scene. This journey will make you mature. And if you have the patience to sit neatly on a chair, one day you too will reach the awaited finish.
Life is not a running competition. There is no medal that you will get when you first reach the finish line than the friend on the side. It's okay if you need more time than your friends to do something. More time to find a partner who can fill the heart. More time to complete the final project or thesis. Because this is not about who is the fastest. It's about who will survive in the most unfriendly circumstances.
No need to worry that you will never approach the finish line. Actually, you're still on a sweet journey. Try to enjoy it while you can, no deadlines that force you to score achievements in the shortest possible time. Life is too good to be rushed. No one requires you to be in time.
If you ask why God did not give you what you asked for, remember that he has his own watch. And He is always on time, as long as you are steadfast in believing. He will show you his plan, someday. Stay promising, the journey to this end line will not betray you.
Wooooooooooòw!. This is deep and good. Thank you so much for this. Really nice.
Taking our time is everything and trusting God to work things out for us too is so vital. Delay doesn't mean we would never get it. Maybe that is just God's way of telling us to take our time and when we rush it, we go three steps back, more worse than we should. We should endeavour to take our time. Our finish lines are different, so we shouldn't measure and compete with another.
Thanks a lot once again.
This is another epic from you bro...
This aspect you write about is the one that determines the outcome of whatever we amount to in life.
Waiting time is never a wasting time, and anybody that cannot wait might end up as a waste.
Why the hurry if my decisions can take me back to the starting point if not well managed. Short cuts are not always short.
We all want things to fall in places now, but not all decisions are as simple as if you want to make a choice of whether to eat pizza or salad... Smile
If one fail at key decisions in life, such an individual would remain a life failure, because their are some things you cannot change, you end up living with them. Even if you manage to change them successfully, you still end up living with the scars left behind.
If those people in Russia are not rushing as their name portrayed them, calm down because you have all the time to make things right.... Smile
Thank you @olawalium and @communitycoin for this is another one of its kind.
Hahahahahaha the Russian part got me laughing.
Thanks a lot for your insightful comments all the time. You made so much sense.
Exactly. Decisions we rush, we often times end up with a desire to change them and it is a terrible feeling to have, especially IF there was no second chance. With the effect, it is hard to remain the same. Why rush? Patience is indeed a virtue.
Hahahahahahha.. Thanks bro.
Some people that ended up turning the tide around after making such a serious mistake in making their decisions are not without a scar...
That's exactly what is happening, we allow society, peer group and family to push us to some hasty decision which may later cause future problems.
There are some decisions in life you don't rush to make, If you rush in, you may end up out. Especially when it comes to marriage.
Those who are pressurising you to have a boyfriend or girlfriend, those who are telling you to get married because some of your mate have married, they would be the one to muck you when you get it wrong. Take your time before making such decisions
You wants to leave big and be riding a good car as your friend does? Be careful of decisions you make. Life is slow and steady
Thanks @olawalium and @communitycoin for this piece of advice this morning.
I am excited about this reply. You really did justice to it. Our life is ours, and not about them, so we should be deliberate about our choices rather yield to pressure. We need to do what's best for us, take our time because when the chips are down, it will be us alone in it, people can only sympathize and empathy without actions makes us feel all alone.
Thanks a lot for that.
Glad I have contributed, it has happened to me once and I knew how people turn back on you when you end up in the dungeon. Nobody will leave our live for us. One thing is to take advice, another is to proces it before experimenting it. Yoruba people will say "se ti won ba ni kio towo bo ina, se wa towo bo? " means, would you put your hands in fire if they ask you to. Smile
Thanks for the feedback @olawalium
Hahahaha love that. Absolutely. We should always process whatever advice we receive. It is still ours to make and we should take our time.
Thanks a lot.
Often we're pressured to make decisions before we're ready, or we take too long because we feel we're not. Setting a time for important decision-making can solve both problems by providing time to think and a time when you have to decide.
Don't stress about trivial decisions. Feel free to make those quickly. Only spend time on the decisions that are particularly important. What you have for lunch is not going to alter your life forever.
Get to know yourself so you know your energy levels. When your energy is higher, this is generally the best time for you to make your decisions.
Get "out of your mind" and into your body so you can make use of your intuition and not make your decision solely based on logic.
For each option, weigh up the pros and cons.
Ask yourself: How do I feel about this? If your head and your gut are at odds, it's probably best to slow down, take some more time, and get more information.
Agree with your words Where the decision needs to be taken, the decision should be taken. In any place, the decision has to be taken and the decision has to be taken quickly. Before taking any decision, all things should be considered with conscience. Many things to consider when marrying. Because the marriage is once for the whole life, so it is not right to decide here. So, according to the need, we have to decide.
I love this. Before taking any decision all things must be considered. You have to think far ahead and not focus on just the short term. Everything should be in place and deliberated upon, especially marital issues, and like you rightly said, it is once in a life time, so it needs to be made with good sense of judgement.
Thanks a lot brother.
thank you brother
Running through life makes it easy to skip over the emotional depths that are vital to our wellbeing. It’s like going to a therapist, telling them the three minute synopsis of an emotional trauma and expecting to be miraculously restored with peace. Speeding through relationships is another way to ensure that you’ll never have a really connected relationship with emotional intimacy. It’s all an avoidance of connection, and connection is how we thrive!
Slow down and you’ll be able to see what is in front of you and feel your way through life moment-by-moment. When you stop rushing, you get to experience the moment right now, and if you aren’t thrilled about what you see, in the present with calm and focus, you can far more easily change things.
Lovely. Fantastic. The more we rush about it, the more we force about it, the farther from it we go. Stop talking, stop forcing, and there ia nothing you will not understand. You rightly put it in a way I love:
Thank you for that. Duly appreciated.
Although this post was a bit focused on the relation aspect of our lives, given that it is one of the more important decisions we face. I find the applicability of this strategy universal.
A hasty decision, more often than not ends up in regret. For me it has been a bit of a dilemma because I tend to overthink things. So I have to be careful as to the amount of time I spend in making a decision. But my instinct is to first do my best to allow myself the time and space to make a decision.
Yes, I focused on the relationship part but I tried to generalised by saying it is applicable in our daily lives, especially in big decisions. I don't want it to have several parts, hence the restriction.
Thank you for this. You are so right, we can generalize it in every aspect of our lives. Major decisions require quality time to think it through because those decisions can make mar us. Better wait now than suffer later.
Thanks a lot for this. Always appreciated.
I agree, you have to take time for big decisions because they will have an impact in your future, so don't make hurry decision made right now due to pression that you will regret on future.. remember that every decision leads you to certain way. Analize if you want to go through that path.
Love that. Every decision leads us in a certain way and we should be so sure we really want to go that path. This is deep. I love it.
For a big decision, we should take our time and think it through, because decisions we make in haste without much thought, we end up regretting it.
Thanks a lot.
People do not understand their motivation if they do not lose anything. If you do not do any work on time, you have to suffer later. So every human in life Needs knowledge of the time. Whatever work is a little late, we will do that work on time. Your post is perfect for the time. Thanks, @communitycoin.
Thank you for your time always. Much appreciated.
The decision is something that is abstract but requires real action, either in taking it or in executing it. Various ways have been created to take a decision and not a few human difficulties in how to make decisions. Decision-making is actually the beginning of a human journey through the aisles of life, wrong decision making may result in a human being falling and falling into a dark life storyline until it ends up losing in all dimensions of life.
Thank @olawalium
Depth!!!!!!. You are right, more reason we need to think things through and take our time before making these life-changing decisions.
Thanks a lot my friend.
Thank you very much @olawalium