The problem is that my bitcoin is still my bitcoin no matter who else owns it.

Due to DPOS those who hold more stake than I do - get to allocate the new stake. Right now they are seeing that newly generated stake as their Roi. That means if I earn, they devalue my earnings, if I buy they devalue my purchase. They have no idea how to build this thing and no interest in getting help. They just want to stack coins and that's a problem