I've been pretty fortunate that I haven't had to deal with this situation all that much recently, but man oh man, I've been there and feel for you good sir.

EDM I think has definitely has been a huge problem in giving people the wrong impression of what a DJ should be. People who are generally just trying to run a business, couldn't care less about music, and are only concerned about make sure the drinks are flowing constantly are the ones that seem most keen on booking EDM DJs. And my reasoning behind this is a bit like the genre itself: the results are right there, right in everyone's faces, and there isn't a hint of subtly to it. Thusly, anyone who does show results right away -- at least to a venue owner/customer who doesn't care about music -- they feel like you, the DJ aren't doing their job, even if it is only 9 o'clock and the doors open 30 minutes ago. Thankfully EDM is all but dead around me and since I never go to any venues that play EDM, it's easy enough to avoid these days.

Just out of curiosity, what's the make up of the audience at the venues you usually play at? When I was DJing at a lot of foreign-run venues with a largely foreign customer base, I found I used to get a lot more shit (that was also ten years ago and truth be told, I probably sucked a lot more as a DJ back then). Since about 5 years ago, I started hanging with more of the local, Japanese DJs in my area and I've found them to be much more accepting of a wider ranger of music than the aforementioned group.

At any rate, sorry this message became a small novel. Don't let the bastards get you down, keep plugging away, here's hoping you get the love and respect that I think all DJs should deserve.