5 Early Dating Warning Signs (Episode 2 - Vlog 2)

So when we first start dating someone, it is always a little more difficult to be objective about it. Let’s get real, it happens. however there are few common signs which will clearly show if this relationship can last for a little longer than for the short term, or not.

I personally made that mistake many times. because i wasn’t observing clearly enough - so guys, listen to this sister for a little while.

The Narcissist : It’s All About Them

The Google translation of the Narcissist is: “Excessive interest or admiration of themselves.” We all know that “one person". We have that one friend who does it.

There are different types of narcissists, some loud, some quiet - in fact I could write an entire article or two about narcissists, but here’s the biggest tell tale sign.

This person only talks about them. When they text you, it is about them. They have no room for you. They are not really interested in your feelings, and actually even less you - unless if you have something they want. This sign is the easiest to spot early on in your interactions.

Narcissists need a fuel for their ego - and if you are a nice enough, you would be giving them quite bit of opportunity to talk about them.

Vengefulness

Observe how he talks about his past, his thought patterns about others.

Is he blameful? Is he bitter? Does he engage in a conversation where he becomes vengeful in the sense that if you make a mistake or do something he doesn’t like, he/she makes sure you make up for it? Tit for tat? An eye for an eye?

Definitely not someone you want to be in a long term relationship with you.

My Way Or The Highway

Have you ever been in a conversation with someone where they will need you to see and take their perspective and opinion? If not, they will pummel you to the ground or engage you in lengthy conversations/discussions/arguments until you throw your hands up wearily in surrender and say “Yes" anyway.

Such signs will show, if not very quickly, but over a short period. I do not recommend you to be involved with such person - unless you enjoy your opinions not being heard.

Addiction To Drugs and Alcohol

We all enjoy the odd alcohol and a smashed night out, but unless you are some sort of an alcoholic yourself and into substances if you are looking for a healthy relationship - I would really watch for signs for addictive behaviour.

The obvious reason for why a relationship won’t be a healthy when your other half is involved in substances is because substances chemically alters the brain. The person might be a wonderful person inside out, but a chemically altered brain is not something that is within his conscious control - something that could undermine his actual personality and conscious actions. Of course, the only way he could be in control - is to stop the substances.

Liar Liar, Pants On Fire

In the mean time, observe little white lies.

The odd chance that they don’t lie on a bigger scale is unlikely. The last thing we want are lies that can lead to betrayal. Iron these guys out and make sure you start your relationships on the basis of transparency and as much honesty as you can.

Also, be a little careful about those who are more secretive.

You will be grateful for that further down the road.

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So, what do you think? What are YOUR dating warning signs which I have missed? Please let me know in the comments below!

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