I always say that we need to identify what's not working in us, and that includes emotions. But we never have to dwell on them. As you said it, we shouldn't own this type of emotions because it sticks with us, changing our personality, altering our views and affecting our potential.

As for writing about yourself in third singular person, I sympathize with you. I used to write essays where I had to give my own opinions in that particular tense. It's just odd!