I can really relate to what you said about a child not being heard when they are upset. just the other day my 6yr old son was playing for ages with a friend at a party and they were having such a good time...they were getting pretty rambunctious and then boom - he's crying and screaming (over tired, over hungry, over heated) people started giving the looks....sort him out, make it stop, he's being a baby. It's these kind of situations of feeling embarrassed about expressing your emotions that can have such repercussions for the future.