Introduction

For the reader, young or adult, of the chain of blocks, we share a set of general considerations focused on providing parents and adults of the steemit community with support tools such as a formula of understanding between adolescents and their parents and teachers. to obtain an important Factor in the relationship as it is, understanding and tolerance.

We understand that, faced with so many and varied situations and activities that adolescents must face, parents ask themselves: How can we understand them, and thus support and help them?

Let me tell you that, in reality, it is not an easy task, but under normal conditions it is perfectly possible to succeed in this singular stage.

Perhaps, the greatest need of parents and adults is to know in advance the psychology of the adolescent.

When a father and mother understand the reasons for their son or daughter's behavior, they can provide much more positive help.

It is not necessary to be surprised, nor to realize, that the child is no longer the grateful and docile child of before. Or if he becomes independent and apparently self-confident. Or if it ceases to be communicative. These are some of the normal changes in the adolescent's personality.

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General considerations in the relationship between parents and adolescents.

As a result of the changes experienced by children in the adolescent stage, parents need to change the discipline techniques, especially if they have maintained an authoritarian line. It's time to talk reasoning and, above all, listening. It is time to reach agreements, to grant freedoms little by little. Be humble, avoiding believing yourself infallible. And to express to his adolescent children a sincere, genuine and disinterested love that "is not rude, does not look for his, does not get angry, does not hold a grudge", this principle is taught in the Word of God.

This genuine love, which is not merely sentimental, is the true foundation of a new way of life in relationships between young people and adults.

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The fact that genuine love is expressed to adolescents does not mean letting them do what they want when it is not right, because that would imply a lack of parental responsibility.

Understand this, father and friend, who lives in the chain of blocks, is only to explicitly and clearly delineate what is expected of the adolescent. For example, give priority to your homework, take care of a domestic chore, talk and treat other family members with kindness and courtesy, do not get home after the agreed time ...

It is clear that, each family has different expectations. In any case, the rules of coexistence and conduct established must be few, clear and respected.

From there, the teenager must have freedom of action.

It is of utmost importance that parents understand that in order to maintain a good relationship with the adolescent it is essential to establish an authentic friendship.

The adolescent often rejects the advice of a father or mother, but listens to a friend. This is something that must be understood and put into practice as soon as possible.

The most satisfactory results are obtained in cases where friendship has been established in childhood.

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It is also advisable, dear reader, that there is no need to spare time and effort to do activities together (sports, outings, etc.) that help deepen friendship.

Something more relevant, is that the adolescent needs support in terms of the concept of himself. This is especially true during the first years of adolescence (11-15 years).

It is to understand that, at this age, boys and girls usually have low self-esteem. They doubt their ability, their attractiveness, their moral qualities and tend to consider themselves inferior to their friends and colleagues.

The words of encouragement, appreciation and recognition on the part of the parents exert a benign effect in front of this problem.

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For the rest, if something that the teenager detests is an attitude that is not honest or inconsequential enough. Parents should try to be fair and honest, and that their behavior be consistent with their ideas. Boys and girls close their ears to advice and open their eyes to the example.

Finally, dear reader, parents must exercise the necessary control over their children, always accompanied by unconditional emotional support.

Remember that the adolescent needs control because he feels it gives him security, but that the control must come from parents who sincerely want the child and are willing to help them even if their son or daughter is not "perfect".