Verbal abuse: when words leave scars

Verbal violence is not always rude words or shouting. It can manifest very subtly, but it can scare you and make you feel inferior.

SourceWhen we hear the word "violence", we immediately associate it with some type of physical aggression. However, there is verbal violence that, although it leaves no visible traces, is no less painful and destructive than physical violence.

Due to the lack of visible signs, it is difficult to determine if a person is a victim of verbal violence or not, so you must be alert and pay attention to the following "symptoms":

1. You feel fear, even if they do not shout at you.

SourceIt would be wrong to believe that verbal violence is necessarily a shout and a discussion aloud. In fact, the psychological "aggressor" tries to manipulate his victim. He makes her doubt herself and do what she wants ....

For this, most likely he is very kind. So, the fact that there is no aggressive behavior does not mean that there is no verbal violence. There can still be threats, both explicit and implicit (only suggestions, conditions, "rules", etc.).

Do not know how the other person will react if you do not do something? Are you afraid of such comments? Observe each of his words and actions, so as not to disturb him and not cause his disapproval, irritation or anger.

2. You are constantly compared to someone and blamed for everything.

SourceWe would all like others to respect our individuality and accept us as we are. But verbal abuse often undermines our self-confidence through constant comparisons and accusations.

Nobody likes being told that another person is smarter, prettier or more successful in business. Especially when a reproach, mockery and anger are heard in the tone. And listening to it every day is a strong blow to self-esteem.

• It is necessary to get out of this situation as soon as possible.
• Remember, no one has the right to make you feel inferior, under any circumstances.
• Due to the constant comparisons, the victim has a feeling of guilt, this is a common situation. The criminal will try to do everything possible to make you feel guilty, literally, for everything that is happening.

3. You're always afraid of something

SourceYou may notice that you are a victim of verbal abuse if you are afraid every time you are close to this person.

This signal can be very subtle: jokes, derogatory comments, blasphemy ... Everything exceeds your self-esteem.

Such humiliation and "intimidation" may ultimately force you to do what you do not want or, in addition, consider it humiliating for you.

4. You always feel accused, as if you were "interrogated".

SourceAnother sign of verbal violence are the direct attacks of the "aggressor", associated with the lack of confidence in you and the confidence in your strength. All this is aimed at reducing your self-esteem, so that you begin to doubt each word or action.

• Such accusations and interrogations may occur periodically. But you must see the danger in time.
• The most common mistake is to justify the aggressor to calm their fears. But the problem is that over time the situation will get worse.

5. Your mood is spoiled

SourceWhat surrounds us, in one way or another, influences us, we are all living beings. And if you are a victim of verbal violence, it will have certain consequences and you should pay attention to them.

If you can determine that in your environment there is a person that causes you only negative emotions, with which it is unpleasant for you to be near, because you always feel bad (sadness, boredom, irritation, discomfort), then it is time to end this relationship.

• Sometimes it's hard to admit that someone can affect us (which is more negative, hurt). However, it is better to accept this as a fact and to distance oneself in time from the "harmful" people.
• It is very important to pay attention to the feelings you experience, how much they differ from your expectations, because the psychological aggressors, in general, do everything very subtly.

And if we are talking about your partner, the person with whom you have strong feelings, you should try to be objective. This is the only way you can see that you are being harmed. And then you can decide how to proceed, to get out of this situation.

It is not easy to recognize and accept the fact that you are a victim of verbal violence. But remember that your well-being depends directly on how much attention you pay to this problem.

And before worrying about the reaction of your environment, you must remember that your main concern is yourself!

Reference:

https://www.mujeraf.com/2014/02/abuso-verbal-cuando-las-palabras-dejan-cicatrices/
https://espanol.womenshealth.gov/relationships-and-safety/other-types/emotional-and-verbal-abuse

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