What dad are you?
Parenting styles describe how parents react and pay attention to their children. As a general rule, there are four different types of parenting styles. These are authoritarian, permissive, and indifferent. A person's parenting style does not indicate in any way the level of love they have for their children.
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There are many options for the preferences of parents, but for most parents, the appointment is the same: to raise their children to be happy, healthy, self-sufficient and successful adults.
Authoritarian parents
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Authoritarianism has its privileges. These children often become obedient and responsible citizens. They are effective, capable and productive. It makes sense in the end, they are used to following the rules and they learn quickly in childhood that the rewards are obtained through observance and achievement. However, with the parents who control them constantly, children born of authoritarianism are often deprived of self-discipline.
As a general rule, they have little communication and social skills, and it is often difficult for them to make decisions. Many children who grow up in an authoritarian family feel that their thoughts and opinions are not important.
Some become openly defiant, while others adopt a submissive attitude towards life in general.
In short, authoritarian parents give orders, and children obey. There is no room for discussion, there is no choice, there are no questions to answer. Authoritarian parents do not feel the need to explain the rules or the reasons why they expect certain things from their children. Instead, everything is "because I said so". Parents who use this style are often forced to constantly monitor and give little freedom to their children.Authoritarian education suppresses the child's creativity and intellectual growth. This style of education was associated with low self-esteem in children and the inability to assume leadership roles later in life.
Permissive parents
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Permissive parents seldom discipline their children. They tend to be condescending and allow considerable self-regulation. The general objective of the permissive parent is to avoid confrontation as much as possible. The common thought is that if children are allowed to regulate their behavior, they will learn independence.
Many permissive parents try to be friends with their children, thinking that this is the way to build a good relationship. This puts the child equally, and does not provide a more appropriate dynamic parent-child, which is necessary for the children. To obtain the consent of their children, permissive parents often depend on bribery, instead of setting limits and waiting for obedience.Parents who are permissive in their style of education are loved and educated, often making their children the center of their lives. They like to do for their child to such an extent that they can not teach a child how to do it on their own.
Democratic parents
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The rules in an authorized home are clear, appropriate for age and fair. There is a sequence that is often missing in other styles of education. Powerful parents are good listeners and see the relationship with their child as a bilateral relationship.
Studies show that children raised by parents are better adapted than children raised in other parenting styles. They occupy a higher place in social competence and are considered to have a higher level of self-esteem, maturity and self-control. These children learn to solve problems in childhood, to make healthy choices and to function in a structured environment.Democratic parents consider themselves role models for their children. They recognize their shortcomings and even apologize to their children if this is justified.
Parents indifferent or absent.
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The danger of this education is that the child grows up without proper discipline: he does not know what rules and conditions exist. Handling these children is impossible. With age, the child begins to think that he does not need his father, that he does not like it.
It is difficult for him to adapt to life, since he does not know how to improve and obey. It should also be taken into account that such a child has not developed empathy, so he will not understand why people are angry with him and feel offended.
These parents have virtually no expectations regarding behavior, a weak attitude, and can even deliberately avoid the child. They often do not control their children and are often emotionally distant. Although it may be difficult for some to believe that being an uninvolved parent does not necessarily mean that you do not love your child. Many of these parents are too overwhelmed with their problems to cope with their children.These parents can provide clothing, food and shelter, but do not participate in the lives of their children. This does not necessarily mean that there are no rules and regulations for households, but any established restriction is quite simple.
Therefore, raising children is a difficult process and each child is unique. Unfortunately, there is no magic formula for your child to become a happy and successful adult. Knowing the different styles of education and the results associated with each one can be useful in choosing the style you would like to adopt with your child.
Source of information:
https://www.hacerfamilia.com/educacion/noticia-estilos-crianza-influencia-comportamiento-hijos-20160711124004.html
https://www.lifeder.com/estilos-crianza/
http://www.parentingcounts.org/parent-handouts/informacion-para-los-padres-los-estilos-de-crianza.pdf
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