Arranged couples and love
Most arranged couples in have a truck load of compatibility issues and if you are in India then a ship load of it. Indian marriage is not between two individuals but between two families. When a girl enters her new life she gets to live with her husband and his complete family. Imagine yourself shifting to a new house, you'll have issues getting accustomed, here the young girl have to live with complete family of strangers with no known individual.
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Girls are obviously shy, naive and inexperienced when they get married and the husband's family, who love their son to the core want him to be comfortable with his new bride. And according to them the only way to do so is to change her overnight by teaching her their way of life. Families should understand that it is a gradual process, but sadly they don't. The girl retaliates and that causes spark in the relationship.
Tiny Sparks lead to fire and the fights gets elevated. The new bride is now all alone in the fight while the husband gets his entire entourage to support him. The bride develops a dislike for the husband and his family which over the years develops and converts into hate that never allows her to live her family.
If you compare, you'll see that majority of couples who live away from their family look more in love than the ones who live with their family.
But then we cannot presume that this is the case always because there are some really great families that make the new bride forget her maternal home with all their love.
Have a nice day, brother 😎
This not actually happens every time. Living with a family gives support and teaches how to run a family which help her in future. It not every that the whole family dislike a women if this true none of the Indian marriage become so successful. Initially adjustment cause some issue in everyone life like when you go to Nrw school you difficulties in cope up with new environment. This means that the evey teacher hates you and every student hates you. There are always some how support you and help you to blend in. Or instead of joining them you started hating them a become a loner now tell me Is it good.
Do not shutter our traditional values for quick upvotes.
Do you like if you don't have any consin or family friend in your life.
Do have elder/younger brother/sister you want to leave them for wife don't adjust with them or hated.
I no one hates a family memeber even a new bribe too
My post is what I feel. I am free to write what I believe in. If you see my other posts you can see how much I value Indian traditions. But then, we cannot say there is nothing wrong with Indian traditions. You might have had it all Rosy, doesn't mean it is same with everyone. I accept there are some wonderful families, but then there are families that burn the daughter in law alive for dowry. I don't say living with no family is good, I am just saying living in a different family for the first few years after marriage makes the marital bond a little stronger. If you don't agree all good, not forcing u to vote buddy 👍I live with my MIL and I can give it in writing that she has not taught me anything worth a penny, there are women who are better than her, I agree.. but u should be in a bride's shoes to understand.
I think with family is the best thing