I think the issues are a bit more tangled than that, but you are definitely on to something here.

What about punishment that carries an expression of love? For example a member of the community has destructive behavior (let's say they never listen to others and jump the gun, acting like a victim and turning others into enemies out of revenge). How do we solve this?

I think it might be helpful to on one hand kind of ostracize his behavior without ostracizing him as an individual. Kind of expressing, "hey we want to help you but you need to be willing to listen to others first, this behavior is not ok here". In a way this feels a bit like punishment but I think it doesn't come from a place of fear and makes an attempt to express love while giving a kind of "soft" punishment.

What do you think?