Don't Expect Someone Else to Teach You
If there is something that can make us change, get out of bad behaviors and thoughts, it is ourselves. Because waiting for someone else to judge us or tell us what is wrong when we have the Holy Spirit of God speaking to our mind, convicting us.
With your help we can be, they would not say judges, but capable of conducting a self-examination or perhaps an analyst of ourselves, of what we do and not wait for the judgment of others.
If we allow the Holy Spirit to act, we will be able to meditate, understand and correct what is wrong. This way we would avoid many problems.
We cannot deceive ourselves, human beings have the ability to distinguish between good and bad, if we analyze each situation in our lives, if at the end of the day we take time to meditate, to investigate the interior of our being, to recognize that it is wrong, analyze what we can do to change that, then God will be there to strengthen us and help us correct.
Why did I experience an encounter with God like Paul's in order to change? I am not saying that this is evil, because that encounter changed him forever, so it was worth it, but Paul had to go through that extreme situation due to the hardness of his heart, he experienced physical blindness, we live in the time of grace, where each who has at his hand the possibility of knowing God, of speaking to him, of experiencing a genuine relationship with him.
Don't expect someone else to come to you and make judgments about your life, when God has gifted you with a wonderful mind, a heart and a beautiful dildo, the perfect team to generate great changes. Remember it is in you to grow every day, taking out the bad, what does not please God and allowing the good to govern your life and your decisions.