SEC-S16/W2 - "Childhood trauma and incidents: how do they affect our children's life? "
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Hello friends, this is @talktofaith reporting my contest entry for this week on Hindwhale Community.
The cases of child trauma cannot be overemphasized. A lot of children has faced and are still facing some situations and tend to live with the trauma for the rest of their lives.
What is trauma?
Trauma is a kind of experience or shock that one receives from an incident that lives a lasting impression on such fellow.
A lot of children had been traumatized and funny enough some of them find it difficult to open up and share such incidents with anyone, especially in this part of the world (Nigeria).
What are the problems faced by children, & which are all childhood traumas? |
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Domestic Violence/Family Problem:
A lot of children come from families where domestic violence is on the high side, this kind of incidence lives a lasting impression on those children for life and gives them another perspective about marriage and family.
I've seen children who said they are not gonna get married because of how they have watched their parents live in disunity and abuse.
Abuse/Rape:
So many children has this record of sexual harassment and rape. This is one of the worst traumatic incident that can happen to any child.
Those kind of children are left with hurts for a very long time, even when they become adults, the memory is always fresh.
Bully From Fellows (Cyber Bully):
A lot of children encounters this case of bully by peers. Most children encounters bullies in school, online and even within the immediate environment.
How to protect children from social bullying? |
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Social bullying has to do with a means of damaging other people's reputation and social relationships.
A lot of children face this kind of bully, where they wouldn't have the opportunity to explain themselves or be heard for the accusations labelled against them.
Educate your children on the subject of bullying generally.
Be their closest friends and always try to find out what is going on with them per time.
Get them to always open up to you in a friendly manner.
Show them love and let them always feel loved and secured at home.
How to educate our children about good touch and bad touch?t |
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Most parents especially from this part of the world (Nigeria) failed in this.
Some parents feels it's too early to start discussing some topics with their kids.
Others feels when they know these things they will spoil.
But these kids tends to spoil more when they get to hear and learn some of these things from their peers.
To educate the kids about good and bad touch, first you need to be their friends.
If you are their friend, there is nothing they can't discuss with you. So you will be able to teach them on touches.
Start early to educate them on the various parts of the body and their functions. Then let them know the places that are out of bound for just anybody to touch.
What do we have to sacrifice to raise a good child? |
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To raise good children takes a lot of efforts.
Most parents gas failed in this aspect, because a lot of parents are busy pursuing money, career and others while the children are left untrained and become something else.
Time:
To raise good children one needs to invest time on them. Don't just assume that all is well with them, that is why you need to be their friend.
Always give your children listening ears and always have an answer to their complaints.
Love:
Show them unconditional love. Let them feel loved all the time. Don't let them get more love outside than they receive from home.
Money:
Always be there to solve their needs. Be a responsible parent.
Prayers:
Always invest prayers in their lives. This is because you don't know whom they interract behind you, and how they can be influenced.
Always pray for your children. Anything you want to see your children become, you can bring it forth in the place of prayer.
Praying for your children always and speaking good things into their lives is one beautiful thing you should not neglect.
Conclusion |
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In conclusion, if we play our roles well as parents we will have less of these traumas among children.
They will grow properly.
My appreciation to the Hindwhale Community for this amazing topic. I learnt a lot reading from a couple of entries.
I invite @saintkelvin17, @ngoenyi and @bossj123 to come participate in this contest.
I invite @saintkelvin17, @ngoenyi and @bossj123 to come participate in this contest.
I invite @saintkelvin17, @ngoenyi and @bossj123 to come participate in this contest.
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Banyak permasalahan yang dihadapi anak hingga membuat mereka trauma seperti kekerasan dalam rumah tangga, perundungan sosial, kekerasan seksual dan lainnya. Kita sebagai orang tua harus membangun pondasi hubungan yang kuat dengan mereka, menciptakan kenyamanan serta komunikasi yang keterbukaan agar anak merasa percaya diri, didukung untuk menghadapi semua permasalahan masa kecil mereka dan tumbuh kembang anak.
Bukan hanya materi yang harus diberikan kepada anak akan tetapi waktu, perhatian itu yang paling utama untuk sang anak. Membesarkan anak memang butuh tenaga, kesabaran dan ketulusan.
Salam....
Thank you for the contribution.
Our children needs a lot of attention, time and care.
I am glad this topic came up here, a lot of parents has missed it.
The reason why a lot of children find it difficult to share their issues with their parents is because most parents find it difficult to spend time with their children at home most children see their parents as visitors rather than seeing house help as their real parents. Love and time are what most children need.
Great post from you.
Very correct, which is not supposed to be so.
A lot of children are lonely.
Most parents feel once they provide the children with their basic amenities, then all is well.
It's more than that.
Thanks for the visit and for your contribution
The best way to get your children to love you is by being their best friend and getting them to truat enough to tell yoi whatever problems they face. Not like how most of us grew up, scared to talk to our parents because we are certain it will land us a slap or flogging.
It's important to educate your children about what to expect from the society early unlike some African parents that feels like they wouldn't want to expose their children to sexual education.
Parents must know the right age to start educating their children about the right and wrong and what to do in any unexpected situation.
That is it my friend, I don't know where that mentality of being scared to tell our parents things those days.
Meanwhile it's not our fault it was improper education and lack of friendly relationship between parents and children.
Thanks for visiting and you detailed input.
Greetings friend @talktofaith
This trauma poses a serious threat to children as it hinders their mental development. Children are afraid of little and it is feared by adults in various activities. Due to various reasons including excessive discipline, bullying, family conflict, physical abuse. You have mentioned a very important point. Parents should be responsible towards children. Children should be given importance. Wish you success in the competition.
Thank you for your input.
Yes parents should get responsible for their children.
Not only putting food on the table and footing their bills that makes a parent responsible, there are more to that
Hello @talktofaith
Your awareness of domestic violence abuse and bullying reflects a deep understanding of the challenges children face. Your practical advice on protecting children from social bullying and educating them about good touch and bad touch is valuable for parents. The emphasis on time love financial support and prayers as sacrifices for raising good children resonates well. Best wishes for the contest
Yes I was speaking from experience, I didn't get most of the benefits I was supposed to get while growing up.
So it makes me able to relate when such topics are been discussed.
Thanks for visiting and thanks for your input.
Greetings friend, many children come from families where domestic violence is on the high side, this kind of incidence lives a lasting impression on those children for life and gives them another perspective about marriage and family has distorting their perception. This could have been corrected with right parenting. Sending best wishes
Exactly ma'am.
A lot of children and even young adults are growing up with hurts from family due to domestic violence.
A lot of parents has failed in this aspect.
But thank God we know better now.
Thanks for visiting and your contributions.
My pleasure
Children do face alot of negative things in life and I experienced some negative things but am glad they didn't hurt me permanently.
Thanks for the invite and am wondering why is showing thrice.
Yes, if not properly buided children in their naivety face a lot.
I'm glad that yours didn't affect you much.