Lie so as not to be caught.
Probably, every person at least once in his life asked himself the question of how to catch a liar or lie so as not to be caught. The complexity and diversity of the phenomenon of lies is evidenced by the fact that over the millennia of human civilization, people have invented thousands of ways of deception and invented dozens of names.
The eternal problem of human sincerity has repeatedly become the subject of discussion in fiction and scientific literature, which considered the problem of lies from two main positions: morality and psychology itself. In society, as you know, a person has to hide his true Self, which inevitably leads to lies. A person lies to comply with the basic rules of politeness, or resorts to a lie when it is profitable for him.
The well-known psychologist J. Dupre gives the following definition of lie:
"a Lie is a psychosocial verbal, or not, an act of suggestion, by which they try, more or less intentionally, to sow in the mind of another any positive or negative belief, which he inspires considers contrary to the truth."
Misleading another person, instilling false "beliefs" in him, according to J. Dupre's point of view, can be conscious (thoughtful, intentional) and unconscious. Other authors distinguish these same two kinds of lies.
Observing, analyzing, generalizing information, making conclusions about the honesty of a person; deciding to take his information for true or false in this situation, people are based on their own standards of truth and lies, sincere and insincere behavior.
However, not all characteristics of the behavior of a lying person are equally indicative. Therefore, different people with different degrees of success recognize a lie among the information that the interlocutor sends them.
ON THE INSINCERITY OF THE INTERLOCUTOR CAN INDICATE THE FOLLOWING HIS WORDS, PHRASES, ANSWERS AND FEATURES OF SPEECH (BUT IN NO CASE ARE UNAMBIGUOUS EVIDENCE OF THIS):
— Insistent belief in his own sincerity, in which he overly emphasizes his honesty, always insisting that he is telling only the truth — in cases where there is no distrust of his words. For example: "honestly, I don't know"; "I swear to health"; "give a hand to cut off"; "I swear, it was like this".
— Avoiding discussion of certain topics, questions (when they touch any unpleasant person moments). For example: "I will not discuss it"; "I can not remember"; " I did not say"; " I do not see any connection here»;
— Unreasonably dismissive, causing or hostile tone-when you are clearly provoked to rudeness. For example: "I am not obliged (a) to answer your questions"; "I do not know what it is about"; " I do not want to talk to you»;
— The desire to cause your sympathy, trust, feeling of pity, if the previous relationship did not lead to such a rapprochement. For example: "I have a family, children"; "I am the same as you"; "I have exactly the same problems»;
— Short denial or indifferent, evasive answers to direct questions. Simple repetitive answers or a repetition of a simple denial. Avoiding the use of the words "Yes" or "no". For example: "I know nothing about it"; "you said it yourself";" I'm not sure"; " do you respect me?"; "you are undoubtedly a serious person»;
AN HONEST PERSON TRIES TO SPEAK MORE AND DEFENDS HIS SINCERITY IN EXPRESSING DOUBTS ABOUT IT, WHILE INDIFFERENT, EVASIVE ANSWERS TO DIRECT QUESTIONS DO NOT FIT INTO THE CONCEPT OF ETHICAL BEHAVIOR. IT:
— Hesitation in the statements; the diversion of the source of unceasing conversation or numerous issues;
—Reluctance or loss of ability to answer questions;
—Long pauses before answers; too slow or confusing answers;
—Answer a question with a question;
—Repetition of questions asked aloud or requests for clarification;
—Masking the essence of the issue unnecessary, irrelevant information.
This behavior is caused by the fact that during the conversation it becomes more and more difficult to lie to a person.
IF YOU FIND OUT ANY CIRCUMSTANCES, IT IS USEFUL TO KEEP IN MIND THAT THE INNOCENT PERSON:
—May Express suspicion, distrust of you, while not counteracting in clarifying the circumstances of the case;
—Often gives comprehensive information with all the details, even not directly related to the case;
—Verbose;
—Constantly trying to kill you with his explanations;
—He begins to actively defend himself before he is accused or suspected of something.
AT THE SAME TIME, THE GUILTY PERSON:
—Avoids detailed explanations, is laconic;
—Restrains himself in answering questions;
—It counteracts the clarification of the facts;
—May waive the explanation and for no apparent reason;
—Indicates the accuracy of small parts;
—Expresses a desire to help you in clarifying certain circumstances.
The study of these features of speech behavior of the interlocutor will give you the opportunity to develop your observation, will allow you to work out a reasonable style of your own behavior.
At the same time, one of the most important practical recommendations is to trust your vision more than your hearing in case of disagreement between words and gestures of your interlocutor. The truth will correspond more still involuntary gestures, human movements, his facial expressions, and not spoken phrases.
It should be borne in mind that the reliability of the signs that transmit the true attitude of your partner in communication, decreases in the following order: spatial arrangement, posture, voice signals, facial expressions, directly statements. In other words, it is easier to hide the truth or true attitude to you through words, facial expressions, voice, and the most difficult-with the help of other means of communication (gestures, movements, poses)