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RE: My Ex is Trying to Prevent Me from Seeing My Son...
Bro with love and respect, I encourage you to take this down and keep things like this hush hush. Public notes will only hurt you I'd imagine. She's a rational person, prolly just stressed which happens to us all in life. My advice, give her a day or two, maybe a week. Then calmly explain lawyers are a waste of money and figure out a real compromise. Identify points of frustration for you both and avoid em or overcome them. Remember, gotta give a little to get a little. Plus it'll be best for the munchkin if y'all can be civil by yourselves without arbitration. It won't be easy but you're both kind and smart individuals, you'll figure it out. Best of luck good sir! 🙏✌️
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She has already stopped talking to me and hired a lawyer. There is no going back now unfortunately, and this is what she chose. We had excellent cooperation and she completely threw it out the window. She won't text me back or reply back on Steem. So it is up to her to change or somebody else to get her to change because she won't even talk to me. There is nothing in this post that will hurt me. But I appreciate you trying to look out... Maybe you could try talking to her. Because she is completely avoiding me and illegally keeping my child from me. At this point, I am the one obeying the law and she is the one breaking it. I am not at fault and have a right to see my son in the state of Colorado...
Worry not friend, things will work out. It's a game of patience I assure yah. There is always time to take the high road brother man. Look at Mandela he spent 25+ years in prison and still held true. You can figure this out. I promise, where there's a will, there is a way! I'd guess that your patience, empathy, and frankly all the emotions will be tested for you on such a journey! I hope you choose empathy and patience over the easier choices of anger and resentment 🙏🙏 it'll be a real challenge, you got this tho!
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She can call me abusive and I can't point out all the things she is? I guess I don't understand the logic behind that... She is abusive and so much more. Everything in this post is true and she makes a post that says "everything in his post is not true" with no details to back it up... If you have faith in HER changing, please reach out to her. Because right now she is breaking the law and keeping my son from me. I hate her so much for that and will never forgive her for abusing me and my state-given rights to see my child. There is literally no reason that gave her a good excuse to do this. And the courts will see that if she doesn't back down and just let us have the strict schedule we already had. There were literally zero issues and then she made an issue by breaking the law.
Easy logic, for yah on that one man. An Eye for an eye makes the whole world blind. - Ghadi
I said the easy emotions would be anger and resentment, I meant it bro. You gotta let it slide. Find empathy and compassion for the other perspective. Here is the brutal truth >> If someone is abusing you stop interacting with em. If you must interact, set boundaries. Hold em to these limits. Move on. Forgive and forget. Release the tension in healthy ways, join a gym, go boxing or something.
Fuck the state and your given rights by the state. Solve this yourself with kindness, empathy, compassion, apologies, and taking the higher road. It won't be easy but bro I'm gunning for yah to do it right! I know you can and deep down it won't be easy but you can!!!
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And I'd be happy to help speak to either of you but your a homie and from one homie to another, delete this, all this, apologize and be patient. You got this bro.
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Please text her. Other people reaching out to HER (not me-- I am not depriving her of her child) is the only thing that can reverse this. She doesn't give a shit about me.
Bro give it time, patience. A few days at least and then start with a sincere apology. I promise it'll work better than this and I also promise it'll challenge you so you can grow from it too, double bonus.
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If you had a kid, it wouldn't be that easy for you to say.
Bro I am powerless. If I go to her place and try to get my son, she will call the cops on me. If you had a son you would know how that feels. I have literally no options, I can't do shit. You are telling me to just sit around and wait for her to change and she is not the kind of person to just change. She is the type of person to do drastic things like this.
You are saying I should set boundaries for our interactions... She has me BLOCKED. I don't think you are understanding how powerless I am to her right now. She is the only one that can change this, and she is showing no signs of even thinking about it.
Please text her man, there is nothing I can do about her actions other than sit and wait for me to be able to see my son which is the worst feeling in the world.
Well I can only give so much advice you seem apt not to take. You aren't powerless. You have the power to be polite, be respectful, be thankful, be grateful, be sorry, be apologetic, be helpful, be considerate, and so much more. You choose to not or to do. That's your choice man. Flowers + a sincere apology note would of worked 100X better than this post.
Here is some real talk >> Mano y Mano. You need to not be mean to the mother of your child. Respect. Remember she did spend 9 months literally with your child inside her belly! That's the mother of your child bro. You don't talk about your kid's mom in a bad way. Ever. Period. And if someone else does>>> you should go whoop their ass bc THAT'S YOUR KID'S MOM! Something a wise man taught me, who was divorced and hated his ex but still showed respect for his kid's momma.
Now, you should therefore delete this post. Quit crying about being powerless and do something about it. Which I recommend doing something is find your patience and ask for forgiveness in a week. Seems you been bugging bro, so who knows what damage you've already done. Chill for now. Be grateful your kid is safe, healthy and close by relatively. Rest assured you'll see em again soon. Just chill till then and for real try to deploy some empathy!
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Dude she was threatening to call the police on me if I even called her again. You would get somebody flowers after they threaten you like that? I can't ask her anything, the communication has been totally cut off by her... Do you get that? I have NO options except to just chill like you said. You can't delete posts after they are a few minutes old and even if I edit this, the original copy will still be on the blockchain for people to see.
Always easier to give advice than take it, emotions are a hell of a drug. I'm the worst with em ha neither here nor there tho
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