"The first point of a toughman's toughness"
I really like how that rolls and how it highlights a pivot point.

Thinking back this is often a very swift move that can happen with mere decisiveness. And you're right- the emotional weights that are often with you aren't part of it.

It's not weighed down by much at all. All you need is decisiveness and full ownership- and some defiance toward the illusions that you finally accept - aren't serving you anymore.