The courage of commitment: Have you ever closed the door behind you?

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In modern times most of us are overwhelmed with choices to make and opportunities to take. It's like every door is open for us but yet it seems so hard to pick one. In fact sometimes we choose not to pick anything at all and keep drifting between the options, thinking we are free but when in fact, we might be prisoners of our own indecisiveness.

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Never have I regret the moment I committed myself to her

Back in time our path was predetermined and life was simple

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Usually the son would follow his fathers footsteps as the father followed his own father. It was a cycle that rarely were broken and of course it brought with it troubles. Because how is it fair that someone else should choose what you should do with your life? well it is not fair. But one thing it did bring to the table was the simplicity of only having one door to choose from and if you really wanted another one, you pretty much had to build the door yourself.

But we live in new times now, and every door is already build for us and we can choose whatever we wish. What movie out of the 1000 others do we want to watch tonight? what education do I want? do I want wife and kids? Should I live in the city or the countryside? Maybe I should live another country?

Our choices seems to be limitless and yet we just cannot seem to choose that one movie we want to watch.

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"We don't want to be locked in a room, but we don't want to live in the hallway either"

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So how do we start taking commitments when we have been used to avoid them our whole life? we look inside the room and it might look great and appealing but taking the step into the room and close the door behind you is something that often scares us away. Making us miss out on another great story in our life filled with love, happiness and development as a person.

We live in a time where committing is a rare event because we fear it will take away our freedom. But when in fact it could be exactly what gave us the freedom we wanted in the first place. Because finally you can see the whole movie through, no matter how it ends. But it is the fear of if it ends badly or we "regret" that makes us rather want to stay outside in the hallway, only getting the short glimpses of what we could have gotten.

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The satisfaction of making a commitment

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Have you ever tried to truly make a commitment? The act of going inside a door and close it behind you. Telling yourself this is what you want to do and you will stick to it. Because when you do that you will put your heart and soul into whatever you chose and amazing things will happen. Maybe you found a person you want to spend the rest of your life with, or building a community in order to be part of something bigger than yourself. Regardless what it is you chose, it will prove to bring you more happiness than if you stayed outside.

The satisfaction of what you now chose and don't have to wonder what it would have been like.
Maybe your choices will sometimes bring pain and grief, but even that might not be so bad after all, since everything is to be learned from.

Learning how to commit can be life changing and is where the true happiness comes from in your life. I am quite a indecisive person myself at times and I keep trying to make those commitments whenever I can. From my own experience the moments I chose to pick were the moments that brought me the most into my life.

Examples? Making the decision of my first great cycling tour to Greece or choosing to turn away a job and move to Romania with a person who is now my girlfriend. I truly have started to both learn and believe that committing have given me everything while going in circles peaking inside the rooms have given me exactly nothing but frustration.

What commitments have you made in your own life?

-holm

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