The 7 Ultimate Things Every Guy Looks For In A Woman

in #life5 years ago (edited)

I will start by saying "men are so delicate, to keep them, you need a lot of care to handle them". You can perfectly keep a him by possessing things he always wants to see in you. Hey!! Don't bother yourself about these unique qualities... We will taking them one after another.

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1. He Wants To Be Deeply Attracted To You:
It is very crucial you know that every man born of a woman always check out for attractions. Being attractive does have an impact on men.
I realize that some people might get angry when I say that, but I have to say it because I want you to be successful. More importantly: there’s no reason to get angry. . no matter who you are or what you look like this can be a huge opportunity for you.
This planet is filled with different kinds of men who all have different kinds of tastes and preferences for what they find attractive. A big mistake that women make is that they try to become a certain image of attractiveness that may or may not be them, instead of the most attractive version of themselves.
When it comes to attraction, you don’t have to worry about people who aren’t attracted to you. Those people can be effectively invisible to you. For the people who will be attracted to you, be the best and most attractive version of yourself that you can be.
Doing what you can to be the most attractive version of you possible is only going to increase your options, increase your power, and increase your effectiveness with attracting the person you ultimately want to attract.
Here’s exactly how to put your energy towards being the most attractive version of yourself that you can be:

  1. Put effort into your wardrobe and wear flattering clothing – clothing that makes you feel good and that you feel sexy in.
  2. Focus on feeling good about yourself – a positive attitude is more important to overall attractiveness than a dress size or two.
  3. Put effort towards being in shape and looking a way that makes YOU feel happy (not a way that some scummy magazine is telling you to look). This helps you feel great about yourself as well.
    If you put effort towards those areas of your life, you will become the best and most attractive version of yourself that you can be – and that’s what the men who will be attracted to you really care about the most.

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    2. He Wants To Be Able To Share His Passion With You:
    Men are desperately searching for someone in the world to share their passion with. Every guy is deeply interested in some subject – the thing that he “nerds out” about more than any other. It’s the thing that he talks about that seems like it changes his whole demeanor. Even shy guys have no problem talking about their passion, once you get them going.
    Find out what he’s passionate about and ask him about it. You’ll discover that guys who are normally shy, closed off, or withdrawn will gush about the subject they care the most about. When you’re talking to him about his passion, your goal is to find out why he’s passionate about it.
    When you know the answer to that question, you’ll know a whole lot more about him, who he really is and what makes him go. It also makes him feel a much deeper connection to you. If you put in the time to find out why he’s so passionate about his favorite subject, he’ll feel like you get him as a person, on a deep deep level.

3. He Wants A Good Listener:
Obviously, I’m not saying that you should just listen to him and whatever he says at the expense of expressing yourself – that’s ridiculous. What I’m sharing are the things that you can do with a guy to make him feel a deep personal connection to you – that will make him want to bring your lives closer together.
Guys will bond with people who they feel that they can share anything with. They don’t bond with someone and THEN open up to them, opening up to you is how a guy bonds.
If you want him to bond with you and become more intimate with you, connect with him where he’s most happy and excited to share with you.
When you do that, two very important things happen.
First, like I said before – he starts to bond with you. He notices that you’re really listening to him and that you’re engaging with him about things that he cares about – and that draws him closer to you.
Second, it gives him a chance to drop the “mask” that he puts on for the rest of the world and show you who he really is underneath.
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4. He Wants Someone Who Shares His Goals And Dreams:
The best, longest lasting, most passionate connections are between people who are moving in the same direction in life. Who hold the same values. Who want the same things out of life. Guys are looking for someone who they can count on to back them up – who they know supports them and their direction in life.
That doesn’t mean you don’t have goals – it means your goals align with his and you’re moving towards them together, supporting each other all the way. If your goal is life partnership and deep love that lasts a lifetime, then this is extremely important. If your goal is just to hook up (which is totally fine), then this is less important.
It’s all about recognizing what his vision of his ideal life is, and seeing whether that matches with yours. For instance, let’s say he wants to work really hard, retire, and then travel the world. Does that match up with what you want?
If it does, great! Your visions are aligned with each other and you can work together towards your goals. You’re a good match. If it doesn’t, let’s say you’d rather settle down and raise a family in one place rather than travel, then your visions aren’t aligned. It won’t feel to him like you’re helping him move towards his dreams (just like it won’t feel like he’s helping you towards your dreams either). If that’s the case, then it’s not a good match.

5. He Wants A Woman Who Has Dreams And Goals For Herself:
I wasn’t kidding when I said #4 isn’t about you putting your goals behind his. The key part of #4 is that you SHARE his goals and dreams, that means you have goals and dreams for yourself and they align with his as well.
I’m not telling you to drop everything in your life and follow him completely – that’s totally off base. (Plus, it will probably push any guy away). What I’m saying is that in any relationship you want to last, you have to take some time and find out whether your goals and ambitions in life match.
If they do, great!
If they don’t, it’s going to cause a lot more conflict in your relationship. Everything you do in life is subconsciously about moving closer to your goals – and he’s the same way.
So if you have different and conflicting goals for what you want out of life, you’ll be subconsciously working against each other all the time… which results in resentment, frustration, and fights that neither of you understand why they’re happening.

6. He Wants A Woman He’s Compatible With:
And vice versa.
A lot of people talk about compatibility but no one really stops to define it. So here it is: compatibility means being in a relationship with each other feels easy. Effortless. There’s no day to day strain.
Compatibility means that it’s easy to be around each other, and that it feels good to be around each other.
Here’s a simple foolproof test: if it feels like you have to “fight” for your relationship, or it feels like you’re constantly battling to keep your relationship on track – that’s a strong sign you’re not compatible with each other.f you’re not a good match for each other, that’s OK – you just have to recognize it.
The thing to remember is that compatibility and attraction are two different things. It’s totally normal (and very easy) to be attracted to someone who’s not a good match for you.
That doesn’t make him a bad person, and it doesn’t make you a bad person. It’s just something to be aware of, and something to take into consideration when you’re having expectations about the future with him.
If he’s a guy you want to build a future with, then you’d better be compatible with each other. If he’s a guy you just want to have a good time with in the short term, then it doesn’t matter nearly as much whether you’re compatible. Short term is much more about attraction.

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7. He Wants A Woman He Can Have Great Sex With:
In case it’s not clear, I’m not going to sit here and pander to you, telling you sweet sounding lies that actually make your love life more confusing and difficult.
I’m going to give you the honest truth about men – and it’s blunt sometimes, but the #1 thing that I want for you is for you to be effective in getting what you want.
So when I say that guys want a woman they can have great sex with, I’m being blunt, but I’m also telling you the truth about what guys really need.
Sex is important to men. If you ignore it, you’re in trouble in your future relationships.
There’s plenty of resources online about improving your sex life, so I’m not going to get into it here. All I’ll say is that loving sex and loving sex with him helps a relationship a lot, and is something that shouldn’t be ignored.
Read up on: vixendaily
Thanks for reading.

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speak for yourself, lol

o wait

maybe i'm just not "every man"

maybe i didnt really read it

i'll give you an upvote for effort

within the next 2.24 hours

Lol! man always has a pushing factor over a particular kind of girl he wants...... You are one of us. Hahaha

yes ofcourse,

i'm a carbon based life form

no escaping that :)

i just hopê you dont believe in that one-size-fits-all women stuff

cos that's gonna end you up hurt lol

it's not t.v. out there
doctor phil isnt really an expert

like oprah

Hahaha. We should all know that women also look out for things as well... That will be in my next post. Wait for it.. Then judge urself worthy to be with her or not .

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