You can only learn to win, after you have learned to loose. If you are given a trophy for just being there, it is meaningless, and robs you of any chance of ever tasting the sweet nectar of Victory. Then there is no course to steer, because the final destination is totally obscured! >:(
Totally! You are so correct my friend!
I am glad you are teaching those kids the right path to follow! Kids are too precious a resource to waste on stupid social experiments!