Everything changes
If every sunset is different because you dream of always being happy? Every day there is a cloud more or less, a different orange hue, the position of the Sun, of the Moon, of the planets also changes in that perfect sunset.
Why do you dream of always being angry? Or always melancholic? Or to be always "good"? Or why do you always want to be "You"? Why not reinvent yourself with each sunset? Without losing sight of our essence and our values.
If life is change by definition, transformation, why do you keep things not to change? Including ourselves.
We think, this world seems tailored to man, the "macroscopic" world.
I refer to the 3D physical world, the one we see, hear, smell, touch, feel the heat / cold, the curious thing is that it is not made to measure man, it is the mind (brain) that has been made to measure the world 3D physicist, has adapted after years of evolution to "perceive" it that way, and that "reality" is a projection of the mind that has taken over and has "believed" it as the ultimate truth. It's An Illusion, a Matrix. But that reality does not exist as such, there is another reality that we can not sensually perceive at the moment. But there is even more, we are not separated from the physical world, because we are One with him, we are part of him.
The physics of Newton made a big dent until the appearance of quantum physics and relativity. He was born as a model of the physical world and now the model governs the minds of many people.
I can think of a very basic example, to realize that there is a change at all scales.
Think of the world of the "enormous", stars, galaxies, galaxy clusters, quasars, supernovas, now we see the light that comes from them, but they are at such a huge distance that they are probably different now. Maybe they do not exist anymore. They are at distances "light years" from us.
Think now of the world of the "minute", subatomic particles, electrons, photons. When you make the observation of your position say, once observed that variable returns to have another different value. The fact of observation alters its position. You could say, that particle was here.
Can we perceive people in the same way? One person you just saw is a blank. At the same time you know her and interact with her, she changes.
It does not change, but your every perception of it. She is change by definition. Change your physical appearance, your voice, your smell, your temperature, etc. Your brain-mind is changing at the same time.
We want friendship, love (understood as romantic love), children, parents, do not change. I can not think of anything more unnatural than that. And if they change, they change according to my needs, my expectations, lest the change cause me suffering.
That his change causes me change, is really my fight against my own change, not with the other person's. It does not go with the Other, it goes with me. Ultimately, it is I who idealize, model and perceive the Other. I believe in my image and likeness, because I know nothing more than what I know about me. Your change forces me to update my records, and I resist it. It is a case of energy optimization. Nature likes to optimize energy, likes balance, nature? Or the man who perceives it? But man is not nature also in itself?
In the experience of life there is a struggle between polarities, for example that everything remains the same and everything changes, it is a whole with the "small mouth", because we can not cover the "whole", but that "everything" remains the same is in reality a fantasy, such as eternal life for example, or eternal love, may be a limitation (characteristic) self imposed on our perception by our brain to facilitate things.
The eye adapted to perceive a physical world "without changes" and the brain-mind adorned it with its idealized perception of "unchanged". So when we have a person in front of us, we can not stop perceiving it from our physical sensors (sight, hearing, smell, touch, temperature, electromagnetism, yes our heart and our brain) but as I said before, that physical reality that we believe "real" "It is very limited, so that person is much more than all that however we are condemned to perceive it with the filter of our senses and our brain-mind.
With what we perceive a 3D object, a voice, a smell, and the rest is invented by the brain and projects it out on that person again.
Apart from this somewhat subjective, biased thesis towards a type of school that I do not want to enter either, what matters is what moves you inside, it is the struggle of polarities, change / no change. Change causes suffering, usually out of fear, since it is usually unlikely that the change will meet our expectations.
Perhaps the best way to take each day is with the ingenuity and surprise of a child, who marvels as if each day is unique, different and special. A day in which things are discovered continuously. Where I will not judge whether they are good or bad, they are, simply, they are. Trusting Not controlling. But that's like not having the tight rope down there, right?
The best way to deal with them may be to flow with them.
All this seems easy, it has taken us years to be where we are, and it turns out that now we have to undo many things learned to be like a child again.
Does all this make sense?